I've been watching rom-coms my entire life. We all have. We know the couple will end up together but we relish the drama anyway, and while it seems like harmless fun, they've given us a terrible blueprint for how to date. I admit that I'm indoctrinated, but at least I've come to recognize it.

I'm not talking about the no-brainers. Everybody knows that you don't wake up one day and realize you love your best dude friend. I'm talking about the stuff that you may not even think you learned from Eternal Sunshine, but that you're secretly sabotaging your relationships because … Read More

I love a good honest confessional. And PrinceWm is nothing but honest. In fact, in response to the article "Why Guys Hate Date Movies", PrinceWm opened his soul, writing:
I can find humor, entertainment and a little bit of retrospection in a well written rom com, with witty dialog and colorful characters, but am very content waiting for the dvd release and watching it at home with a girlfriend, a bottle of wine and the ability to pause and rewind. I prefer to save my $20 tickets - $40 popcorn&snacks for explosions, fast cars and the creative breaking … Read More

So, here on YT we are wondering why guys hate date movies. I know my DH hates em. Ever since he saw "Love Actually" he said he'd never see another date movie again. But why the hate? Qverb gives us a little insight into the reason:
In general date movies and their ilk are akin to romance novels. They are great when they are confined to the world of fantasy and responsibly used to escape reality, but when you start basing the state of your life or your relationships on them then you are just asking for trouble. The Hollywood romance … Read More

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Ten alternatives to romantic comedies—i.e. chick flicks men will like. [EMandLO.com]

This woman cancelled her cable and her relationship blossomed. [Lemondrop]

My boyfriend and I spend our weeknights making romantic dinners, dancing to Frank Sinatra in the living room, working out, reading or playing games. And we're pursuing individual hobbies, too: I signed up for a dance class and joined the alumni association at my college. He wants to take a boxing class.

OK, we get it: Barack and Michelle Obama have an awesome relationship. But is it awesome enough to … Read More

The next time you're aching for a Jennifer Aniston, Reese Witherspoon-type of movie, but he swears Transformers was, really, just crazy underrated—let him win this one. It'll be good for him and good for your easily, impressionable female mind.

Or so says Edinburgh researchers at Heriot Wyatt University, who are blaming romantic comedies for encouraging "unrealistic expectations" when it comes to relationships and love. They hypothesized movies like You've Got Mail and While You Were Sleeping are causing partners (they use the gender neutral term, but c'mon, it's women) to communicate less and expect more. Dangerous! 

Hollywood, they say, creates … Read More

My friend Michelle and her on-again-off-again were off. Again. She complained that he just wasn’t going to the right lengths to win her back. “I need a big gesture,” she said. “I need roses. I need tears. I need Lloyd Dobler on the front lawn with a boom box raised over his head.”

Another friend, Laura, had not met anyone even halfway decent in months, and was starting to wonder if her best friend, Tiny Tony—a sweetheart who is unfortunately short, bald, and bulbous—might be the guy for her after all. “I’ve never been attracted to him or anything,” … Read More

My friend Michelle and her on-again-off-again were off. Again. She complained that he just wasn't going to the right lengths to win her back.

"I need a big gesture," she said. "I need roses. I need tears. I need Lloyd Dobler on the front lawn with a boom box raised over his head."

Another friend, Laura, had not met anyone even halfway decent in months, and was starting to wonder if her best friend, Tiny Tony—a sweetheart who is unfortunately short, bald, and bulbous—might be the guy for her after all.

"I've never been attracted to him or … Read More