resentment
Still heartbroken a year later, one woman wonders how long it will take to "get over it."
So, it's been a year since I got dumped. Frankly, I would not blame any of you for being at the point of thinking—if not saying—"Why the f**k hasn't this bitch gotten over this yet?" I wonder the same thing myself. The Frisky: The Top 10 Things You Learn When You're Heartbroken
There's that saying that it takes half the length of the relationship to "get over it." If that were the case, I would have another year and four months to go, God help me! But actually, I'm over the heartbreak. There's not one ounce of me … Read More
An honest look at what can—and can't—improve because of couples therapy.
Going to couples therapy wasn't something my boyfriend or I had to wrangle the other into. Our rough patch was more like a slick of black ice, and we were careening towards a precipitous ending. We had moved in together almost a year earlier, and couples therapy seemed easier than breaking up. It would at least buy us time to figure out how to split our belongings while I looked for my own place in New York City.
I went into counseling thinking Ryan had to change. If he didn't fix at least eight of the things that were … Read More
In relationships, financial conflict might actually be about something deeper.
My poor cousin Dan. A middle-aged joker with a surprising spiritual bent, he'd been single a long time when he met… well, let's call her Lynn. It was great, he said, to be intimate with someone again. They saw each other every day, and within a couple months they were living together. But even on their first date, Dan remembers, there were signs: all the talk about the Lexus or Infiniti she wanted; all that food she ordered and didn't eat. Nevertheless, he felt good about the agreed-upon plan for sharing his place, which he owned. Lynn would pay $500 … Read More
A former bread-winning wife worries about her new role.
Q: My husband and I have been together for almost six years.We started dating a year or two after college. I studied business in school, and landed a job with a good salary and many perks. My husband studied literature, and worked in an industry that did not pay as well, so I have been the primary breadwinner throughout our relationship. This changed about eight months ago,when he finished his MBA and got a great new job. Now, his income is almost triple mine.
I had no idea at the time, but I really enjoyed being the … Read More
