My friend Leila came to visit from Arizona last Friday. We’ve known each other since freshman year at USC. I’ve seen her about 3 times per year, every year since graduation and still she—as well as everyone else from those days—says to me, "Your hair is so dark. Who’s doing your color these days?"

I said, "For the thousandth time, this is my natural color! This is what I really look like." I love that everyone from the west can’t seem to grasp that I would leave something natural. Maybe I was more of a follower back in college. (Here I … Read More

"So?" he asked me. "Is there anything else you want to say?"

I was bursting with more: that he could thank his manic ex-girlfriend for gnawing off the root of another of his relationships; that he was an absolute coward for not breaking up with me in person; that he would gain great benefits from the use of Crest White Strips. But I bit down hard and said, "No."

"Good. Well then take care."

"WAIT!" I said. "You should know that right this second I'm heading to Facebook to change our relationship status."

"But I'm driving!" His voice squeaked … Read More

The morning quickie: the perfect way to start your day. Read on for three interesting love and sex tidbits.

New term: Relationship Status Vulture. These conniving birdies swoop in when they see someone's status change to "single" to offer condolences... and perhaps a shoulder to cry—or kiss—on.  [Lemondrop]

"Empty nest syndrome," feeling sad when your kids leave home, may not be so bad afterall. [New York Times]

A growing body of research suggests that the phenomenon has been misunderstood. While most parents clearly miss children who have left home for college, jobs or marriage, they also enjoy the greater freedom … Read More

The morning quickie: the perfect way to start your day. Read on for three interesting love and sex tidbits.

The Joy of Sex has been updated and Susan Quilliam, the sexologist who did the revision, was on the Today show this morning. Watch the clip here. Quilliam will be in YourTango HQ  later today for an interview—check back in a few weeks for video and text. [The Today Show]

There will not be a "crazy sex scene" in the new Star Trek movie. Rats. [E! Online]

Are Facebook relationship status updates anti-feminist? Discuss. [Read More

Aww, so cute! Richard Blakeley, editor of favorite TangoMag site, Boinkology, took the big "do you want to be in a relationship" Facebook request leap and scored!

Though Blakeley fretted he'd look like a "wuss" for making it legit on the Internet rather than, say, over a plate of linguine by candlelight someplace in Little Italy, luckily, the gesture bowled over his beloved.

His best piece of advice for attaining boyfriend/girlfriend status over social networking site?

"You should feel pretty confident they're going to accept, because if they don't, you're going to look … Read More

I never take my engagement ring off. I wear it in the shower, to bed, at the swimming pool–everywhere. This past weekend I finally found a place I couldn’t wear it–in the boxing ring. I took a 3-day boxing bootcamp where I had to wrap my hands, don big boxing gloves and hit the crap out of pads and bags (it was very cathartic).

Friday night, I slipped off my ring and put it in its box, nestled next to my future wedding band. All weekend, I kept getting this nagging feeling that something was wrong. What had I forgotten? … Read More