Joanie is proud of her accomplishments. She has risen to the top of her department at work in less than a year. The extra hours in meetings and training sessions have been well worth it. She is thrilled to bring home the paycheck that she does, but her career success has been much more than that. The sense of achievement and boost in self esteem that Joanie continues to receive from all of her hard work is the most important benefit. Unfortunately, Joanie's husband disagrees with her.
Roses and chocolates. Red and pink. Silly poems. The highschool dance. Being the kid who didn't receive any Valentines at all. Potent reminder of disastrous past relationships. The commercialized fakery and the pressure to express love you don't feel, or receive love gifts from those you know don't really love you. Its not only singles that say they hate Valentine's Day! If you belong to the rapidly growing group of folks who wish the day would simply disappear, you are not alone.
Can you really change a man? A common question, but the answer isn't exactly clear. Sometimes you don't want to change everything about your guy, but just a few things... like his bad behavior. 3 Ways to Ensure Your Relationship Survives Change In this video, Coach, Healer and YourTango Expert, Louann Schwager Tung helps a reader who's frustrated by her husband's bad behavior. She's wondering if she can help him change, or if she just has to sit and live with him. What can she do?
According to a recent study, January is the most depressing month of the year. In fact, a study of 1,000 couples in Britain found that in January, couples fight for more than eight minutes a day and have 20 arguments during the month, compared to about 15 fights in the other months.
Do you have a "work husband" or "work wife" that you like to flirt with in the office? Are you worried that this attraction—however small—might border on overpowering your attraction to your own spouse? Study: Men Like To Flirt With Coworkers Out Of Boredom In this video, Therapist, Spiritual Healing Expert and YourTango Expert Dr.
Barriers keep us from opening up to love. When we are closed off, we feel disconnected and respond from fear. Barriers are what we do and how we're being that sabotage our relationships. They show up in unhealthy relationship patterns and result in unfulfilling relationships. At first glance, we think it's our partner who puts up these barriers because of the way they respond or don't respond, or because of what they do or don't do. But when we wake up and see that we keep attracting the same man over and over, we then realize that we're getting in our own way.
How would you rate yourself in the bedroom? This is a question we should all ask ourselves and maybe our partner. If you don’t want to hear the answer, chances are, you may not be. Becoming a good lover starts from wanting to be.
Are you unhappy in your relationship, want your partner to go to counseling with you and he refuses? The majority of the work I do is with women who want their partner's to change and are frustrated because he doesn't see the need for it. This is when the real work begins! Whenever you are in a relationship and find yourself unhappy about how things are going, commonsense would dictate that you need to have your partner’s cooperation to “fix” things. But that is not necessarily true.
There are too many stereotypes of marriage to count. A biggie that we read about and hear all of the time is that the passion inevitably dies over time in a long-term relationship. This is humorously portrayed in TV sitcoms where the husband and wife mostly regard one another with boredom and-- in healthier relationships-- resigned acceptance. It's pretty clear when the newlywed phase is done.
Flirting is a way to interact and get attention. People everywhere dress, talk, laugh, play, and engage, all in an effort to get the attention they need. Babies flirt by flashing a smile or giving direct eye contact. However, when couples get married, sexual flirting is not advised. Sexual flirting is different than the normal, playful flirting the majority of people engage in. My guess is that the sexual flirting in which your husband is participating is the one that has you most upset.
All you and your husband seem to do is fight. You fight over breakfast, over the phone, when you come home from work, and before you go to bed. Will it ever stop? Is this a sign that your marriage is crumbling? In this video, Coach, Healer and YourTango Expert Louann Schwager Tung helps a reader who's been having this problem in her relationship. She and her husband can't stop bickering, and she's worried they're on the fast track to a split. What does Louann suggest?
As we grow up, there are many things about our parents that we hope we can inherit: maybe it's your dad's sense of humor and your mother's legs. On the other hand, there are also aspects of them that we hope to leave in their generation (that quick temper? No need to pass that down, thanks). 5 Things To Notice When Meeting His Parents That's why it's worrisome when you witness your parents' bad habits when it comes their relationship. It makes you wonder, "Is that going to be in ten years when I'm married to someone?"
If you aren't texting, then you probably aren't talking to any 16-year-olds. Or most people for that matter. Texting, whether you like it or not, is now a way of life. However, as with all good things—hamburgers, the sun and Ryan Gosling—sometimes too much exposure can cause cancer. Or at least some relational difficulty.
In the many years I've been counseling, thousands of couples have come to me wondering if they should end their relationship. Most of these people were in love at one point but are now miserable with each other, or one partner is miserable with the other. Generally, they don't know what the real problem is. They know what they don't like about the other person. They know they can't communicate about what is important to them.
Well, it's 2012 and the catch phrase "New Year, New You" is definitely once again well overused and way under committed to. It happens every year: every January everyone sets resolutions, goals, intentions, aspirations, hopes—insert whatever word resonates with you—but it is the unified time in which you and the rest of the world decide to refresh, renew or rewrite themselves.
Vanessa, 30 years old, is struggling with whether or not to end her six-year marriage. The answer is not at all clear to her. Vanessa and Jon have a "good" marriage. They are kind and caring with each other. They enjoy many of the same things. So why is Vanessa in such turmoil over whether to stay or leave?