Wanderlust looks like your typical fish-out-of-water comedy. George (Paul Rudd) and Linda (Jennifer Aniston) are a young married couple in Manhattan who've just bought their first apartment, a miniscule studio they can barely afford. Then George loses his job in finance as the recession hits. Linda hardly earns an income as a creative dabbler, so the couple decides to move in with George's brother in Atlanta.
Relationships don't just happen when you are off the clock. As therapists and business coaches, we see how the two worlds of personal and business collide. Often when we see business coaching clients, they want to talk about what tools they can use to get their struggling business back on track. Inevitably we find the issue is a lot deeper. Sometimes behind a bad business is a bad relationship. Here are some signs that you might have a problem:
In this video, Relationship Expert and YourTango Expert Janie Lacy helps a reader whose husband struggled with an addiction to porn and sex in the past. Now that he's recovered, she's nervous that one day he may resort back to his old habits. She's also concerned that this addiction will be passed down to their son. 5 Excuses A Man Will Give For Watching Porn
It can take less than three hours to have an affair. Yet once your affair becomes exposed, you can pretty much count on that sooner or later it will be public knowledge. You will fairly quickly start to feel that the topic will never end. You will find yourself drowning in a sea of endless repetitive questions, countless accusations and threats. Your name will be nominated as the favorite person to gossip abouut in your community. All this reflects the truth that affairs are much easier to get into than it is to resolve them within a marriage.
One of the most “popular” mind games that so many of us play is also the game that causes destruction and pain. This is the game that nobody wins. It's called... The Comparison Game. You might play it too. Do you compare yourself to others? At a party, do you look around at the other men or women and judge how attractive/thin/fit/muscular/successful you are compared to them? This can make or break your night!
Marriage & Couples Counseling in Boulder,CO How does a couple get to the point of needing marriage counseling? There is nothing quite like an intimate relationship to show us the way in which we think, what we believe and how we are inclined to act and react. Our buttons are sure to get pushed by our partners and some parts of ourselves (that we would just as soon keep hidden!) are inevitably revealed. When this happens, we can feel terrible and hurt if our partners are not skillful in how they approach us.
“I'm sorry” isn't good enough. When you've made a mistake, you've got to show that you're genuinely aware of how much your actions hurt your partner or your ex that you're trying to win back. You've also got to prove that you're making positive changes. John lied to his wife about going drinking with his buddies.
Are you dating or married to someone who has a problem with alcohol or substance abuse? Are you tired of the negative affects this has had on your relationship and waiting for the one you love to change? How Do I Stop Holding A Grudge About Everything? In this video, Psychotherapist, Author and YourTango Expert Julie Orlov helps a reader whose husband is a high-functioning alcoholic. She says she has lost faith that he will ever get sober and is thinking about leaving him.
No relationship is perfect. We all know this. We're not perfect and therefore our relationships will never be perfect either. That's okay. That's normal. But success in relationships — romantic and otherwise — have a lot to do with proper communication. In fact, most relationship problems are caused by poor communication.
Every relationship has its own difficulties. No relationship is ever perfect and the only means of achieving an almost perfect relationship is through effectively surpassing challenges and learning something new about your partner. Different challenges occur in every stage of the relationship. All relationship undergoes developments and passes through various stages of knowing each other and fitting into the bond. It is important to understand these phases of attachment in order to deal with the challenges more effectively. Symbiosis
When someone hurts you or offends you in some way, do you have a hard time letting it go? Do you hold grudges against these people for a long time, even though you'd just like to move on? How Do I Avoid Making The Same Mistakes In New Relationships? In this video, Therapist, Author and YourTango Expert Dr. Bonnie Weil helps a reader who has the tendency of holding such grudges against anyone who has ever hurt her. She says it affects everything she does and she doesn't want it to ruin her new relationship.
Nobody likes to be criticized. Let's face it-- most of us overload ourselves with negative judgments a lot of the time. When your partner regularly lumps on his or her nags, put downs and “advice” for how you might do things better, it can be a heavy and crippling load to carry. The combination of your own criticisms with your partner's put downs can cause your self esteem to dip even lower and intensify conflict between the two of you.
I often had this question in my dating years. I had no problems meeting men, but nothing seemed to last. Of course, at the time I thought it was because I was picking the wrong guy, but over the years I’ve discovered that it was mostly my own baggage that I carried from relationship to relationship. What Baggage are you Carrying Around?
It had been a long week of work deadlines, unexpected car repairs, grumpy kids and more. Rita was looking forward to a relaxing dinner out with just she and her husband, Pete. Unfortunately, that was not to be. Pete's meeting ran late and traffic was slow. When he finally walked into the restaurant and joined Rita, he looked stiff and tightly wound. After the server got his order wrong, Pete broke. He began to shout and scream at the mortified young man who made the mistake. Pete demanded to talk to the restaurant manager and caused a huge scene.
Unhappy with your relationships? Here's the likely culprit, and how to fix it... you need to strengthen your personal boundaries. Strong personal boundaries give you the freedom to say yes to what you want and no to what you don’t want, despite the risk of displeasing others. What a concept, huh? (The irony is the more you try to please others, the less you succeed. Nobody likes a people pleaser.) You’ll automatically upgrade your relationships and improve your life overall.