Being in a healthy and committed relationship is all about making sure to effectively communicate with your partner as well as listen to their emotional needs. But what happens when you begin to fall so deep in love that you forget to listen to what your own heart wants?
During the last election, my neighbors Mark and Jennifer were at odds with each other. They had been married for over 25 years and always voted for the same party. This year was different. Mark was voting for McCain, and Jennifer was voting for Obama.
Since 1994, we have worked with thousands of marriages, many affected by infidelity, though all the other problems have been represented in quantity as well. Control and domination, addiction, anger, step-family difficulties, in-law problems, and more lead people to contact us for help. They do not always call to seek help to save their marriages; sometimes they call because they feel confusion about whether they should divorce or try to reconcile their marriages.
With the obesity epidemic in this country, it should be no surprise when that the next person you go out with may not be the perfect picture of health. But would a health issue stop you from dating someone? Most people on the dating scene say yes.
Personal styles can really have a big impact on a relationship, particularly when it comes to food and eating, and especially if, as a couple, your eating styles are so different, it sometimes feels like your partner is more into food than he is into you!
Let's say you're a staunch republican, and you fall madly in love with a hardcore democrat — can you make your relationship work in spite of your wildly different political views? And how can you deal with the inevitable rising tensions as election day fast approaches? It's certainly not easy to manage, but it's not impossible either. Here are a couple of things you can do.
Although it's been more than three years since the assault that landed her in the hospital, Rihanna sat teary-eyed on "Oprah's Next Chapter," telling Oprah that she still feels "protective" of Chris Brown. Crying over him, Rihanna admitted, "I still love him." Many of us have been in unhealthy relationships far longer than we should have been. Sadly, it is too easy to fall back into the addiction you two share: each other.
I was wondering: how many people get into these situations, when their partners, who are suppose to give them love, appreciation and support, turn against them? Still, others might wonder why they are not leaving their abusive partner, as well. Once in a while, most of us get handled in a non-respectful way, and it would be irresponsible to break up after every conflict. On the other hand, the unfair but usual maneuver of an abusive partner who makes the victim believe that she or he is responsible for the bad turns of events is completely unacceptable.
We've all been there: you're having a great day until you log on to Facebook and see that some girl—that you may or may not know—has written on your boyfriend's wall or liked his status … again. Whether or not she's a threat isn't as important as how you deal with it.
Over the course of a year, I see hundreds of people. Still, some of the stories I hear have touched me deeply. Such was the case with a couple that asked to see me after hearing me speak in Hawaii.
Theoretically, asking your husband or wife to empty the dishwasher should be totally devoid of drama or tension. It's just one of many chores necessary to keep your home functioning, right? However, with a passive-aggressive personality, any situation has the potential to go from the trivial to emotional combat.
We all have past relationships, experiences and memories. No one comes into adulthood with a clean slate. And if you’re past the age of 25, you most likely have had at least one significant romantic relationship if not more. As you look back and reminisce on your past, you will find that some of those memories are sweet and some are sour. Life is filled with both. Your past is filled with both. The question is not if your past in lurking in your present relationship, but how.
We start dating with the best intentions, taking care to be our best selves. Then we get comfortable and complacent. You can blame your partner or you can commit to making sure you keep working to earn that long-term affection. Here are 10 ways to put your best foot forward in your relationship—and to keep moving.
Some people are good at relationships. The people they encounter are emotionally available and commitment-ready, and they sail smoothly into monogamous relationships as if on command. And then there are those who are more relationship challenged. Mystified by how to transform a Match.com profile into a boyfriend or how to meet a guy who's not a total commitmentphobe.