Conflict is part of life. And that means it’s part of our relationships, even with those we love most. I just don’t think there’s any way around this. Could the Dalai Lama avoid fighting with his spouse—not to mention his ex-spouse—while trying to raise children? I’d like to think so, but then again, perhaps there’s a reason that His Holiness isn’t married.
Men are ever-watchful to avoid getting involved with high maintenance women. Men are ever-watchful to avoid getting involved with high maintenance women. You’ve heard of High Maintenance women but do you know what that means? Hopefully, after I explain this sad malady, you’ll cleanse any HM behavior you might have going. First, a high maintenance woman needs things to be just right. She extremely particular what restaurant, or type of restaurant, she needs to be taken to. She’s extremely particular what table she needs to sit at. She’s extremely particular how she needs her food to be prepared.
We'll be honest here... There is no 100% guarantee that your partner will not cheat again. There is no 100% guarantee that you two will stay together. At the same time, there is no guarantee that your partner WILL cheat again (or at all). There is no guarantee that you two will break up either. That's the thing about life and relationships. They can be nearly impossible to predict.
There’s nothing that compares to great sex. There’s nothing that compares to great sex. It comes with confidence, comfort with our partner and a willingness to be both vulnerable and spontaneous. But if you think sex should be a certain way, it’s very difficult to have great sex. An idea that will definitely keep you from having enjoyable sex is thinking you aren’t experienced enough. Experience is a good thing, but not essential to enjoying being sexual with someone.
By Susie and Otto Collins Julia is bored. She's worked at the same job for 10 years now. She's lived in the same town for almost her entire life. She's dated the same guy for 5 years. Sure, she loves her boyfriend, Dave, and she doesn't want to break up with him. But, she misses those early days of their relationship when everything was a fabulous and delightful surprise. Dave used to show up at her office and “kidnap” her for an extended lunch break that often included heavy make-out sessions in his car.
How you feel about losing your virginity depends… are you a guy or girl? The morning after can be difficult no matter if you are a guy or a girl, but it seems to be more difficult for girls than guys. A study from researchers at Pennsylvania State University reports male university students' body images improved after having sexual intercourse for the first time, while the opposite pattern was found with females.
If you’ve been together for a while, those “in love sparkles” can disappear. Sometimes they just ebb and flow, coming and going mysteriously. When they’re gone, things just don’t feel as good as they used to. Often, we’re not very aware of why things don’t feel quite right, you wonder if your relationship is over, and hope that somehow, the love will return. We don’t know why it went away and we don’t know why it comes back.
I’m a personal development teacher and one of the things I teach about is relationships. I’m about to celebrate my 25th anniversary. I have four adult children, two daughters-in-law and a very close step-daughter. So being a teacher, having my 25th anniversary in a few days and planning to see my family for Mother’s Day this Sunday got me thinking. “I know what ingredients have worked to make my 3rd marriage so very special. And I teach those.
This landed in my inbox the other day: "My ex and I had been going out for a year and a half. He had expressed so many times how much he cared about me and all that jazz. About two months ago he was talking with his parents (he is 18 and still lives with them) and they convinced him that I was not right for him because of my religion. He left and we played the text messaging game backwards and forwards. He came back after I mentioned I was simply going to hang out with this guy he used to be jealous of.
Four years into their relationship Kate and Eli wondered where the fun and excitement had gone. What happened to the thrill they experienced of hugging each other after a day at work? How did they get so bogged down with family duties, housekeeping routines and bill paying concerns? Their interactions revolved around checking in with each other about getting things off the “to do” list. The day to day tasks of life consumed more and more of their time.
We know the importance of discussing sex before we hop into bed. But money? Oh, no. talking about money with a potential life partner can feel much more embarrassing—and threatening—than a rundown of our sexual history.
I often get requests for advice from women who tell me how wonderful their man is. Then they go into all the things that make them unhappy. If this sounds like you, I would invited you to do an exercise that can be very revealing. On a piece of paper draw a line down the middle from top to bottom. On the left put the things about him that ARE wonderful and the things he does that make you happy. On the right put the things that are NOT wonderful and make you unhappy.
Women are the leaders in the relationship. Men know it better than women do. A woman can change the tone and energy more easily then they realize… and it’s fun to watch a man respond. The quickest way to shift the energy in the moment–and as the primary way you interact with each other–is to remember that beneath the surface, down in his and your hearts, is a desire to be loved, accepted and appreciated.
We all go through difficulties now and then. The tricky part is not getting stuck thinking it will not improve. Here are some steps you can take to help yourself not only get past the hard times, but actually learn and improve because of them. Get a journal just for this event. Write whenever you have feelings, memories, anxiety, etc. Writing what you’re feeling gets it out of you so the negative stuff doesn’t stay in there to fester. And the good stuff will warm your heart.
I am a huge proponent of feeling all of your emotions, fully and completely. That’s one of the many joys of being human and female. BUT, there is an overarching emotion that runs your life. Are you positive or negative? Do you notice what’s good in your life, or do you put your emphasis on what’s not working?