Ash Wednesday marks the beginning of the 40-day period of Lent. Even if you're not a Christian, the idea behind the season is interesting. It's a time of giving up vice and substituting more positive behavior in its place. Where better to try this out than in our relationships? Every couple has their own unique blend of struggles, but here are some tips for curbing bad habits—in action and communication—and taking a better, more positive approach. This trial only lasts 40 days, but who knows? You might want to keep practicing permanently.
I was just watching an older woman (at least 75) and her husband. She was enthusiastically pointing at something, wanting to share with her husband. When he ignored her, she turned to follow him, her head down, obviously feeling bad for not being acknowledged. Watching her brought tears to my eyes.
When you've been having marriage problems, you need Expert help. Julia and her husband, Rich, have been going through a rocky and, unfortunately, Julia goes to her self-absorbed friend for relationship advice. When you really need help, you should get it from an expert... a YourTango Expert.
A woman wrote recently to ask my advice about what to say to her guy about his not telling her what he was going to be doing. Her concern was not wanting to wait for him. I’m afraid I gave her more than she bargained for. My advice: If you don’t have a date set, with a time, say nothing. He is a free individual and can do anything he wants. He shouldn’t have to tell you where he is and what he’s doing. You either trust him or you don’t.
Much of how we do family is learned and passed down through the generations. Each generation either adopts what their family did, or goes to the other extreme vowing to do family vastly different than the previous generation. Either way, your past influences your present. And your present will influence your kids future. Creating a happy family involves maintaining a happy marriage. Here are six tips to follow. How great would it be to pass along a simple, loving, passionate, adventurous marriage to your future generations? It can be done, and it's easier than you think.
The Feminine Grace is the foundation of everything I teach. It is what causes a woman to be truly happy. It’s actually the key to enjoying more fully every aspect of your life. We think we’re our own person, able to choose how we live our lives. But a lot of how and why we make the choices we do has to do with our culture. The culture of our family is the strongest influence because it’s our whole world during those first formative years.
For many of us, finding and sustaining long term love can be difficult. Heck, sometimes it seems downright impossible. But in Dr. Diana Kirschner's new book, Sealing The Deal: The Love Mentor's Guide to Lasting Love, this impossibility becomes possible.
The key to improving one's social love life, whether dating or in a relationship, is to treat it like any other important project. Determine your long-term social/dating goals. Break each goal down into specific, measurable, attainable, relevant objectives. Select activities that can accomplish your objectives.
Rejection and criticism arise because of one word: fear. When we are in a state of fear in a relationship, the twin towers of negativity—rejection and criticism—become an embodied part of the couple.
When it comes to finding true, everlasting love it is very important to give up the good to go for the great. This often requires a person to say ‘no” when they feel compelled to say “yes”. Going against a person’s true desires and compromising one’s standards does not lead to the long-term, happy & fulfilling relationship that most desire.
There are endless traits and behaviors that are emblematic of a healthy, fulfilling relationship. Most of us know what they are (even if we forget to practice them!), such as listening to one another, laughing together, using humor (especially during arguments), having regular sex, going on dates, etc. There are 9 habits that couples who have truly awesome relationships have in common.
A woman wrote to me explaining that she’d been on a few dates and thought it was going great. Fun conversations, good time, kissing and a bit of petting, but no sex yet. She definitely felt strong chemistry. Then, wham, he wrote and said he wasn’t that attracted to her. My advice:
For many couples, the idea of bringing a third party into their intimate relationship is scary—or just plain out of the question. Luckily, the stigma associated with couples therapy is well on its way out. Healthy couples are enlisting counseling professionals to help work through sticky patches, large and small, and are the better for it.
In episode three of YourTango's Love Life Makeover video series, relationship guru Dr. Diana Kirschner helps Love Life Makeover winner, Nadette, uncover and release pent-up emotions about her ex-fiance. Identifying and releasing anger and self-sabotaging beliefs are important steps to letting go of past heartbreak. Getting negative beliefs and feelings out in the open helps us make space for new love to enter our lives. Dr. Diana helps Nadette work through the disappointment, sadness and anger from her broken-off engagement.
Dear Brit and Catherine, I just went through a breakup. I was a mess, the only sites that could really help were sites for people who are grieving. Even though they were grieving a death, what they said really helped me. I know you can’t compare breakups to someone dying, but I wonder if a breakup could still cause grief? “Mary Ann” (not her real name) Dear “Mary Ann”
In the quest for romantic partnership, we all greatly benefit from supportive friends and family. But what if the people who are supposed to have your back actually undermine your relationship goals? Unfortunately, friends and family can sometimes behave in ways that feel more like a dark cloud raining on your mate search than your love finding cheerleading squad. They likely mean well but their execution sabotages their good intentions. YourTango Experts explore how a good love life wingman or wingwoman should work for you.
Whether you're on your first date with a new person or the 100th with your significant other, you'll want to have a great time, without embarrassing yourself or being embarrassed by your partner. Likewise, you don't want to be one of those couples who has nothing to talk about at dinner, and you definitely don't want to be the date who dominates the conversation, not letting her date get a word in edgewise. Following these dos and don'ts of dating etiquette will help you sit back, relax and enjoy a fulfilling dinner date: