The ladies in my Master the "Mystery of Meeting Men" telecourse have been talking about S-E-X. When is it okay to have it? How do you decide? This is such an important conversation! You may think "I'm not even dating yet ... who cares!"
Being pushy usually backfires in a love relationship or marriage. The image of the domineering, controlling man and also that of the harping, "pit bull" woman come to mind when we talk about being pushy. Nobody likes to feel pushed around. Pushiness tends to bring up reactions of defensiveness, emotionally shutting down and outright hostility.
I remember it like it was just yesterday. The conversation my single girlfriends and I would have over and over again. Whenever one of us had just gone on a first or second date, or had been in a slow moving relationship with the typical non-committal guy we were in denial about. The conversation always inevitably came around to “Why hasn’t he called?”
When Zack and Tiffany started counseling with me, they were on the verge of divorce after 16 years of marriage. Neither really wanted to end the marriage, yet both were miserable. Both of them believed that their misery was because of the other person, and both could clearly articulate what the other person was doing wrong.
If you're single and you'd like to be in a relationship, this time of year can be excruciating. There can seem to be countless ads showing happy-in-love couples giving one another romantic gifts: Cars with big red bows parked outside the house. Glittering jewelry. Even those “Forever Lazy” wearable blanket things. In television ads and in the real life examples of people around you, it can appear that everyone else has a partner to exchange gifts with and to share the season with. Except you.
We are a bit nervous about writing this article because we know you may not want to hear what we have to say. Some of this may not be what you want to hear, and this is actually the very reason men don’t tell you what we really think. But we hope that you can benefit from our honesty as part of a potential solution to this age old problem.
It might have been a huge blow-up where you and your partner both said awful, hurtful words. It could have been a slow-building tension that brought coldness and distance. The effects are the same...your relationship feels like it has collapsed. The strong foundation of trust, communication, respect and even love has been shaken and maybe feels destroyed. You're wondering if it is even possible for you two to repair the damage and rebuild your connection.
Every woman is working with the same pool of men. Say there are four billion men on Planet Earth. This is the pool of men that you have to work with. In this pool, there are going to be gentlemen, pimps, players, hustlers, and psychos. But, it’s the same pool of men. It’s not like the crazy men are coming from outside this pool. The question is, why do some women always attract the crazy men? The answer is you. You can either repel or invite these men into your life. The only reason you attract crazy men is because you talk to them.
Holidays are the time when we feel the need to share ourselves with a loved one. It’s the time for connecting with our family, remembering our roots. It is also the time for reflection: Another year has gone by… What were my hopes for this year? Have I progressed in the direction I wanted to? For single people who are hoping to find a life partner this may be a bitter realization: Another year has gone by; I am still single. It hasn’t happened…
This is the story of Mike, the fire fighter. And me. And our relationship. Now we all know there’s just something about a firefighter, right? The big strong hero, who lives to save people, and is coming to save us too. They’re special. And if they like us, then we’re really special. We’ve really been chosen. Or so we think. Or so I thought. After all, it was the beach. Where better for fate to bring him and me together. Sand, surf, sun and all of the endless romantic possibilities they represent.
by Mike Tinder for 21st Century Man http://www.facebook.com/pages/21st-Century-Man/123049324441970 We are approaching the end of 2011 and the beginning of a new year. Like many, the New Year’s resolution of “getting in shape” has likely crossed your mind. The resolution is always driven by the sales drive by those gyms and you see the ads for perfect bodies in the magazines.
There are so many rules regarding bringing your feminine energy to the dating world. They float through the Internet, radio, and television and make it increasingly difficult to know exactly what the world expects. What’s more, so many women simply reject the whole concept of “feminine energy” out of hand, saying, “I am not going change who I am just to land a man. If he can’t deal with my energy, then tough. His loss.”
Do you feel more down in the fall and does it seem to be affecting your relationships? Is your partner more moody, or do you seem to fight a lot more?
One of my good girlfriends suggest that I write down my feelings as I try to examine my relationship with a new man. So goes nothing! I've always wanted to be the cool girl. The girl that's never needed, zero drama, and has an amazing man to call her own. Instead, I find myself only able to put on a front and as a result I suffer alone with the consequences. It doesn't help that I think to much for my own good. So here's the latest brainbuster that plagues my mind whenever I find myself alone.
Why we do some things, no one knows. But if we think it’s love, we’ll do it. Like telling someone we ski when we don’t. Because they’re into skiing and we want to do things with them and we just know it’ll be easy to pick it up. No, no, no. Do not do this. I learned this one the hard way. And ended up on the roof. Of a shed. On the slopes.