Idyllic Vision of Love Most of us grew up with an idyllic vision of love from “Happily Ever After” stories and movies. This idyllic vision takes us on a roller coaster ride, full of twists and turns. We’re in relationships that aren’t ideal. We stay in relationships that are clearly over. We don’t fully express ourselves for fear of getting hurt. We do these things in the name of love. I know this to be true because this was who I was.
Are you in a rocky relationship? Feeling resentful, anxious, distant, or lonely in your situation? Whether you have been dating for two months or married for 10 years, things can go south all too easily in a couple. Yet there is nothing quite as painful as when things are falling apart, when you know that your love might be lost forever. Can I turn it all around, you wonder? Is it even possible now?
According to research by Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri, while 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce, 67 percent of second marriages and 74 percent of third marriages end in divorce. Is this surprising?
For many singles, the New Year signifies a new beginning with hopes, excitement and the anticipation of the relationship they have always dreamed of having but with the same limited understanding of how to attract it. Here are five sure fire ways for the dating single to attract love into their life in 30 days!
It can be uncomfortable and maybe even a little scary to realize that you don't necessarily like your spouse. There might not be anything horribly wrong with your partner... except for those dozens (or more) of "little" things that you disapprove of or that get on your nerves. These "little" irritations may be things that you bite your lip and remain silent about, or they could be what you nag and fight about.
You've pretended that the problems weren't there. You've thought and thought about the troubles in your marriage searching for a solution. You've talked and maybe even argued with your partner about this challenge you face. Maybe you two have stopped talking about your marital problem because it feels too big and impossible to deal with.
Do you want to find love this year? Have you ever wished you could “have it all?” This is your year! Follow these steps to finally find love in 2012: Step 1: Get completely clear about who you desire. “The List” or not “The List?” That is the question. The answer is … absolutely The List. Make a list of 100 qualities you desire in your mate. Then, make a list of the 100 amazing qualities about you. Are you afraid to ask for what you really desire?
When I look back at all the relationships that didn’t work out (that I so wanted to at the time), I realize that in every case, there were early warning signs that each guy gave me that could have given me some idea of the heartbreak I was about to experience if I had only been aware of what to look for. To spare you from what happened to me, to give you the inside scoop on what you can be on the lookout for, here’s my list of the warning signs that clearly let you know that this is a guy to avoid if it's a real relationship you're looking for.
Making resolutions as a couple can help you stick to your promises, and can also strengthen your relationship. This list of resolutions-for-two will help you ring the New Year in right, and keep your relationship rockin' in 2012.
When it comes to seriously dating a nearly divorced man, there is usually a third person in your relationship – his not-quite-ex-wife. It feels like he’s the one for you, but the strong emotions he feels for his wife are a challenge. You have been loving, generous, and available. She was a bitch. And yet he seems to be grieving the loss of her! Huh? How can you combat your feelings of insecurity and work through this challenging time?
Men are everywhere in our lives. Whether you’re currently in a romantic relationship with a man, or you want to be, the fact of the matter is that we’re in relationships with men everywhere in our lives anyway: at work, at play, in our families, in our communities. Relating to them effectively improves the quality of our lives immeasurably (and of course, relating to them poorly has a negative impact on the quality of our lives). Having said that, our focus will be on romantic relationships. That’s why you’re reading this, I’ll bet!
"We never seem to be able to solve any problems," Kaylee told me in a phone session. "Every time we sit down to solve a problem, we end up fighting. It doesn't really matter what it is about - it always ends up the same. Is this normal? Aren't couples supposed to be able to solve problems?" "Kaylee, who usually initiates problem-solving talks?" "I do." "When you ask Hayden to talk with you about a problem, how does he usually react?"
Men and women usually go to the club for vastly different reasons. Men go to the club to find women, find women, and to find women. Women go to the club to sometimes find a man, but also to enjoy themselves by dancing and drinking the night away with friends. Men are reactionary creatures. If you want to know what we think about you at the club, all you need to do is evaluate one thing: Your activity at the club. Men read what women give us to read. It’s as simple as that.
How do you treat a woman once she decides to share her time with you? Ask yourself, “Who is the most important person in the room?” You had better have answered, “She is!” Don’t we want to give this special person — who treats us with such consideration and kindness — all that she deserves?
After my recent article “When a Woman Turns a Man’s Head” the question was raised: How do you handle your current woman’s feelings when you obviously notice another woman? The best advice I can offer is to be really with your woman when you’re with her. Give her your 100% when it is your time to be together. Be transparent with how you feel and what’s “up” with you. Let her know how important she is to you. Find out her “love language” (see book by Gary Chapman) and give affection in her preferred way.