At a time when fifty percent (or more) of marriages end in divorce, it is no surprise that one of the most frequent questions I am asked is, “Is there anything I can do to keep my marriage/relationship from falling apart?” The good news is, yes, if you and your partner really want your relationship to “go the distance” and avoid being just another sad, divorce statistic, there are three specific, and deceptively simple things you can do right now to start
You would think that people planning to marry would talk about their loves, hates, needs, desires, futures and deal-breakers. Alas, I’ve talked with clients who have been married for some time only to learn that their partner doesn’t want the kids they’ve been planning on for a lifetime, wants a sexual favor they’re totally not into, doesn’t believe in spending money on the lawn, wants to spend every holiday with their parents, and, let’s just say I could go on. And on. And on.
Are you dating someone who seems afraid of making a commitment to your relationship? You've been seeing each for a long time now and it's pretty clear to you that there's more going on than just having casual fun together. But, every time the topic of taking your relationship to the next level comes up, your partner mysteriously disappears.
Bring on summertime! It's time for cookouts, beach trips, swimming, volleyball, parties on the patio and much much more. For some singles, it's also time for a summer fling. With the heat of summer can easily come the heat of romance. Look for these five crucial signs to tell if this fling is most likely something more.
Whether you love or hate the show "RuPaul's Drag Race," the diva extraordinary speaks truth by always ending her show with the saying: "If you can't love yourself how the hell are you going to love somebody else?!" Being in a relationship can be a very fulfilling and beneficial experience. We are social beings, after all. However, there is a difference between being in a relationship and feeling the need to be in one.
I am yet to meet a man who had all the characteristics of my ‘dream’ guy. Neither have my friends. And I doubt my dream man will come with a stamp on his forehead that announces that he is ‘The One’. Often, it’s the person who ticks around half of our list of requirements but manages to surprise with acts of love in ways we hadn’t expected that steals our hearts. Here are five little signs that prove they really could be ‘The One’.
Kissing seems like it would be one of those instinctive things humans do — like yawning, stretching or scratching. After all, what is the big deal about two pairs of lips locking together? However, some kisses can be relationship-ending turnoffs. So, let's go over the basic steps of kissing.
Stand by the MOYD–show yourself approved and leave no doubts that you are the one. When your man, or prospective man, is down on his luck, this is an opportune time to strike; to have his back and show him who you really are. Show him what the “S” on your chest stands for.
A man who is a user is truly not interested in you–only what you can offer. All his initial questions relate to your job, career and income status. Do you have a car? What kind of car is it? What year, make and model? Do you have kids? Who lives with you? These are all probing questions a man with a user mentality will ask, in order to see where he can fit in and take advantage of you.
By Jane Greer, Ph.D. for GalTime Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively have bought a home together. It sounds like fun, doesn't it? They met on the set of "The Green Lantern" and have been moving forward as a couple ever since. It's easy to get swept up in the romance of it all, especially the idea of playing house.
Men can be so funny or sometimes maybe they just have adult deficit disorder, but which ever the case maybe keep the women that you are seeing straight please! I have seen so many women get their hearts broken, because men have gotten caught playing the field and they had no idea. Of course, it is a good thing they found out sooner rather than later when they have already walked down the aisle.
The ol’ saying is that "before you can have a healthy and loving relationship with someone else, you must first love yourself." Since the beginning of time, people have struggled with figuring out what it really means to love both oneself and another, and when it happens, if it is real and will last.
There is no phrase so misinterpreted as "unconditional love." People use it as an excuse to stay in bad relationships. They use it as some ideal they chase when they are not even sure what it means. They use it when they say, "I believe in marriage." or "I believe in loving someone until they can love themselves." or "I'm religious and want to love unconditionally." or "I can't say 'if you do this, I'm out' because that is not unconditional love." None of those things are unconditional love.
In my opinion, this concept is the product of western civilization which assumes that you simply have to find your “true love”, progress your way through to the wedding ceremony; then you are primed to live “Happily Ever After”. The main emphasis is on the choice: you choose “The Right One”, later in the courtship you might be confronted with complications, but undoubtedly everything will quickly turn into roses at the “I do.”
Recommended Books Books on marriage 1. Intimate Partners, by Maggie Scarff 2. Getting the Love You Want, by Harville Hendrix 3. Grown-up Marriage by Judith Viorst 4. The Good Marriage by Judith Wallerstein 5. Families and How to Survive Them by Robin Skynner and John Cleese 6. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman 7. After the Honeymoon by Dan Wile 8. After the Fight by Dan Wile 9. Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson
There’s a lot of talk lately about celebrities getting married too young. The prediction is that these marriages will fail. Are the odds any different as we age? Is age the problem or is divorce the end result of something else- relationship malnutrition? We all need different types of nourishment from a variety of relationships. Yet more and more, I see people looking to their primary partner to provide all of their nourishment. Is this too much to expect from one person?