Instead of complaining that the rose bush is full of thorns, be happy the thorn bush has roses.
We all complain. Even if you argue that you are the happiest person in the world, you still complain sometimes.
Sometimes we complain without even realizing it, but rarely is it ever helpful. Sure, a common complaint can bond two people who may have nothing in common, but too much complaining would just break down the relationship.
For example, I once had a friend who constantly griped about her health, her family, her relationships, school, and the list goes on. Every time I hung out with her I felt drained afterward.
YourTango Expert Julie Orlov tells you what to do before you get into another fight.
Do you have trouble communicating as a couple? Are you frustrated because you can't get your significant other to listen to you? If so, help is on the way.
Dr. Romance helps a reader to decide if waiting for her ex is worthwhile.
Dear Dr. Romance:
Several years ago I met this man. it was instant attraction for both of us. we fell instantly for each other but he had a girlfriend. I gave him the space he needed and we both agreed to just be friends. we tried it once when they broke up but it was difficult. So I got a boyfriend and stayed with him for a year and a half.
Dating a relationship failure has its advantages - if they meet these 4 criteria.
Fourteen years ago when I met my husband, we were both failures. Relationship failures, that is. He was divorced twice and so was I. We were in our early forties, fearful of making another mistake, yet still hopeful that maybe this relationship would be the right one. We both had a healthy dose of skepticism, but we forged ahead. Good thing we did because meeting him has definitely turned out to be the best thing that has ever happened to me!
Learn why women let these men destroy their self-esteem.
Women who get played by men aren't "dumb" or "inexperienced". Smart women get played all the time … and not because the guy is bright or smooth, but because his bullsh*t story has enough tangible possibility for it to be believable. Moreover, these "players" aren't useless men. They watch and wait — predators of a sort — and fill a specific need that a woman is looking for. And not just any need, but a core need she wants filled: sex, affection, security, attention, freedom, romance, etc.
Do you know the difference between being nice and being loving?
Do you know the difference between being nice and being loving?
Our society has long trained children to be "nice." Being nice might mean:
• Telling white lies so as not to hurt other's feelings, such as agreeing with them when you really disagree.
• Listening politely when someone is going on and on, even when you are so bored you can hardly stand it.
Try this six-step approach to get your boyfriend back pronto.
If you're a woman who has tried to get your ex back, you've most likely taken the "desperate times call for desperate measures" approach, causing you to do all kinds of unfortunate things, including the walk of shame and the drunk dial. These unflattering behaviors render you his doormat, and ultimately push him away.
Is your relationship on the rocks? Are you wondering what mistake you're making and how to avoid repeating it in the future? If so, help is on the way.
What can you do to make sure you and your honey stay on the wide, smooth path to happiness.
Here are my 5 must-do rules for keeping the fight monster far away:
1.) Remember to take a few moments everyday to focus on your partner. Listen to whatever it is that they want to say. Don’t judge or feel the need to answer them right away. Just listen. And make sure that they know that you are listening. Good eye contact is critical.
Dr. Romance advises a reader on how to talk to her family about her inter-racial relationship.
Dear Dr. Romance:
My question of the week is how to deal with family opposition of my inter-racial relationship. My dad, who is in his 70s, is vehemently opposed to my relationship with my fiance (who is white). He hasn't even met him and given him a chance. It is quite frustrating given that our wedding is in a few months and I'm not even sure he will come. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Dear Reader:
