to the YourTango newsletter!

FIND AN EXPERT
Advanced SearchDr. Marty KleinDavid SteeleCatherine Behan

PSYCHOLOGY

Psychology Videos
man thinking
"Hmmm... Amanda..." *drool*

Study Says Men Get Dumber Just By Thinking About Women

Science has discovered that the mere mention of a woman's name can make a man dumber.

It's no secret that the male gender is a bunch of bumbling idiots when it comes to us ladies. Look at us! Our hips, our breasts, the way we smell, the softness of skin (which is completely natural and in no way attributed to mounds of moisturizer) and of course, just the fact that we are the fairer (read: superior) of the genders — we're the complete package.

mars venus
Are men and women really from different planets?

Study Says Men Are 'Emotionally Stable' -- Uh, Really?

Study finds new personality differences between men and women.

In the early 1990's, a writer and relationship counselor by the name of John Gray, Ph.D. wrote a little book you may have heard of: Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. When the book was published in 1992, it became a pop culture phenomenon that eventually led to more books, seminars, a TV sitcom and even a one-man Broadway show.

Dating Resolutions
Following these New Year dating resolutions will help you find your ideal partner!

Dating Resolutions: 7 Qualities Of An Ideal Partner [EXPERT]

Dr. Lisa Firestone discusses seven characteristics to look for in an ideal romantic relationship.

December 31 may be all about the New Year’s kiss, but by New Year’s Day, most people are thinking about what comes after the kiss. This can be a good metaphor for our dating habits in general. The person we look to for instant passion, an immediate spark or even a New Year’s kiss is not always the same person we would be happy sharing our lives with long-term.

positive
Next time, try taking the 'glass half-full' perspective!

The 'Think Positive!' Experiment [EXPERT]

Having a more positive state of mind can keep out the negative emotions that ruin your days!

Every once in a while, I like to do a quick quasi-experiment with my psychology classes. I hand out slips of paper to everyone in the class. It appears (to the students) that all of these papers are the same, although they in fact are quite different. Half of the class has just received a slip asking them to name the three best events that happened to them over the past week. The other half of the class receives a paper that asks them to list the three worst events that happened to them during the past week.

broken heart plate
Did he cheat and serve your broken heart to you on a plate? Ugh, we hate him, too.

9 Real Reasons Men Cheat, From A Man's Perspective

A few inconvenient truths about men and cheating. Disclaimer: This is from a very male perspective.

Cheating has been analyzed through a never ending stream of expert opinions and "why men cheat" books and articles. Overwhelmingly, the barrage of cheat-lit takes the much needed stance of helping women either demonize or empathize in addition to ensuring women that there's something that can be done to prevent a man from cheating. Not this article.

feet sex
"The power of positive thinking" applies to sex.

Do You Believe In Your Vibrator?

Ladies who believe their vibrators help them achieve sexual satisfaction have more orgasms.

The power of positive thinking has been proven across several of life's spectra, and now, we'd like to add one more to the list: sexual satisfaction. More specifically: vibrators, baby.

'Tis The Season! Are You A Giver Or A Receiver?
I used to be a notorious "giver." But the more I gave, the more I pushed the guy away.

'Tis The Season! Are You A Giver Or A Receiver?

Now that I'm in a steady relationship, I've learned that you have to balance giving and receiving.

When I was in my early twenties, I was a notorious "giver" — to the point where I didn't even know what it felt like to have someone return the gesture. I felt that the more I gave, the more the guy would like me and appreciate me. Looking back, it seems as though the more I gave, the more I pushed the guy away.

girl sunglasses
Science has finally debunked the "thrill of the chase," and it ain't pretty.

Angry Single Blogger: Just How Unavailable Do I Need To Be?

We all want who we can't have. But when we really, really can't have them, we pretend they're dead.

As I wrote about last week, there's something fundamentally attractive about the so-called chase. If someone seems unattainable, our desire for them goes into overdrive. And now this fact is scientifically proven, thanks to new research.

little girl reaching for candy

Angry Single Blogger: Why I'll Always Want The Men I Can't Have

I will never be reasonable in my choices of men. I love the thrill of the chase.

I will never be reasonable in my choices of men. I will never go for the one who likes me immediately, I will never want the who makes me feel as though I earned him with my charms and quirks. I'll go for the one whose intentions and feelings I'm never quite sure of, who may have a skeleton or two in his closet.

Lady Gaga

Study: Women Get More Bisexual As They Grow Older

60 percent of women are attracted to other women. Are you one of them?

Like most women, I have no shame in admitting that I find other females attractive. I have even admitted to being open to experimentation ("Of course I would sleep with Halle Berry! It's a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity"). For women, it's perfectly acceptable to be a little bi-curious (cue every male fantasy), and according to the latest research, it's the norm.

stress definition

Understanding Stress & How To Manage It

What is stress and what can you do about it? Find out here.

What is stress? Stress seems to seethe all around us — you read about it in the newspapers and magazines, hear about it on TV, Google it online. There appears to be a consensus out there: stress is hazardous to your health and well-being. But stress is seldom defined. They tell you to avoid it, that you need to "de-stress" your life, but only rarely does anyone tell you just how to do that. So you worry — you even stress about having stress — rather than doing something about it. After all, what in the world can you do?