If you feel like you missed the class that taught everything you needed to know about dating and you just can't make these things called relationships work, you may be stuck in some unhealthy romantic patterns.
If you are a "deep thinker", you are always trying to make your relationships better. What could I do better? What could my partner or loved one do better? What dynamics are at play that are not working for us? Sometimes we aren't conscious that these issues exist nor do we admit how much they have been affecting our relationships and our life. We think maybe we did something wrong or not enough of the right things and try and try and try to do things differently.
If I accepted his friend request, I'd get a glimpse into his airbrushed life: his wife, his children, his vacations. But I wondered what my husband would think of my journey down memory lane. It seemed unfair to have an intimate thought that didn’t include him. Yet I was happily married. And the friendship would be innocent, right?
Are you having trouble getting on with your in-laws? You are not alone! The trials and tribulations of trying to live in any kind of peace with your partner's family has been a source of woe for hundreds of years. But knowing that loads of other people have trouble with their in-laws is not much help to you in dealing with your in-laws.
One of biggest differences I see between people who have created happy relationships and those who haven’t is the act of keeping score. If you’re keeping score you may come out on top of your partner, but the relationship will come out on the bottom. In other words, if you’re playing to win in your relationship, you’ve already lost.
For many young people, high school love is full of firsts. You can probably think of a few yourself--first relationship, first kiss, first heartbreak or even the first time. However, we're betting you would have never guessed this first would ever be added to the list. Researchers at the University of Maine performed a psychological study which brought to light a new first for kids in love, and it has nothing to do with magical moments. They found that early relationships can often reveal the first signs of depression.
There's been a lot of talk lately about women's sexual health. Either we're not doing it, or we don't feel like doing it, or don't like the feel of doing it. I fall squarely into that third category, because when it comes to matters of the old in-and-out, my girl parts are afraid of boy parts. Sounds ridiculous, I know. But I have a doctor's note. My condition is called vaginismus. It's basically a gag reflex for your downstairs, or like the mythical vagina dentata, but without the badass peen-chomping teeth. It's goes a little something like this: Say I'm about to get down to business with my best guy. We're hot, we're heavy, we're headed to the bedroom. All casual-like he sidles his yang on up to my yin, and at the first whiff of that quivering member, we have a lockdown situation. My cooter shuts up tighter than a Chinese finger trap. Nothing's getting in. Not nobody, not no how.
These habits married couples sometimes adopt could lead to major problems. We'll say it straight up: There's no good reason in the world to hang onto these habits. They aren't helping.
As a single woman in these modern times, of course I've done online dating. Lots of it. Here's a story that really stuck with me.
A recent study out of China theorizes that exposure to BPA—Bisphenol-A, a plastic-making compound—might be one of the reasons why men suffer from erectile dysfunction.
Learn to take control of a this situation. Dr. Diana Kirschner gives her advice. Give your advice or see what others said here: What would you think? Got a question? Ask it now at http://www.yourtango.com/questions Featuring Love and Dating Expert Dr. Diana Kirschner http://www.lovein90days.com
