"The childbirth books speak of diminished desire post-birth and suggest lubrication, but nobody talks about the other possibility. What if sex were better? What if all of the inhibitions and disparaging thoughts that once filled our heads fled? What if the very act of childbirth forced them out?" How one couple's sex life improved after they had a baby.
The past 25 years have left women's plates increasingly—some might argue, precariously—overloaded, as they try to keep healthy portions of career, love and family. In her upcoming new book, "In Her Own Sweet Time: Unexpected Adventures In Finding Love, Commitment, And Motherhood," New York City journalist Rachel Lehmann-Haupt explores the expanding buffet of choices that exist for women hoping to "have it all" today.
Dry spells happen to the best of us. The only difference between you and that chick who says she never has them, is that she’s a fib-teller and you aren’t. So congrats. Lack of sex can be the result of anything. Perhaps the cruel planets have aligned in such a way that your sexiness has become astrologically veiled. Work is crazy and the thought of putting on lip-gloss and nice underwear just makes you tired. Or you've decided everyone you found tasty in the past is Satan-spawn and you're doing your vengeful part by not even allowing eye contact by possible suitors, let alone roaming hands. Ick. Whatever the reason, it doesn't matter. But we're here to tell you: ENJOY. Similar to a bad case of the flu or a never-ending winter, soon the clouds will part, the sun will shine, and you'll be back to dodging phone calls and figuring out creative ways to break-up it off again. You'll see.
According to a recent study by scientists at the University of Queensland, a Hugh Hefner-aged father may actually be detrimental to the child's cognitive abilities. Out of a pool of 33, 000 children it was found that those with the oldest fathers consistently scored lower on intelligence tests. Unfortunately, no exact age was pinpointed as too old. Rather, the scientists just witnessed a general decline with more mature dads—66 being the oldest father in the study. While, yes, the reasons behind a low IQ score could most certainly be blamed on a myriad of factors, researcher Professor John McGrath said the results were "startling" and goes so far as to say the age of the father is as important as the age of the mother. While we always thought of sperm as evergreen, new research proves that older men "accumulate more mutations" in their swimmers as they age.
The guy I lost my virginity to found me on Facebook a few months ago. I opened my inbox to read, "Is this Teri? If so, hit me back." It was an absurdly casual message, as if he had no idea I associated him with puking from anesthesia in the parking lot of an abortion clinic. The shock I felt when I saw the name *Jeffery in my inbox is a testament to how successful I had been at forgetting everything that happened between us.
In a classic, made for Maury tale, Alfie (just 12 at the time) impregnated Chantelle, then helped her hide the pregnancy until her mom noticed her bump. The parents of these two baby-having babies came together to support the scenario, and are allowing the pair to have sleepovers as they struggle to raise their infant. Alfie's dad notes that the kid still seems completely confused by the situation, which makes total sense BECAUSE HE IS ONLY THIRTEEN. Dad says, "I will talk to him again and it will be the birds and the bees talk. Some may say it's too late but he needs to understand so there is not another baby."
A rather oxymoronic article reported that lesbian and bisexual teens are more likely to get pregnant than heterosexuals. Based off 30,000 seventh to twelfth graders living in British Columbia during the years of 1992, 1998, and 2003 more heterosexuals reported pregnancies overall, but the lesbians and bisexuals got pregnant more often. Researchers think this is due to the bisexual and lesbian girls overcompensating for their same-sex attraction.
We like our standard booty calls to be our hottest, most talented ex-boyfriend. But The Booty Caller, text messages from babycenter.com to alert us when we're ovulating and likeliest to get pregnant, is a close second! The Booty Caller will text you 18 times, 3 times per menstrual cycle, and let you know when you're ovulating. It's a free service but you must register with the site to get the goods. You'll receive messages like "Your fertile window opens today and lasts 5 more days" or "Today is your last fertile day! If you get pregnant during this cycle, your due date will be on or around 6.25.2009." If you're trying to get pregnant, you now know when to attack your partner when he or she gets home. But if you're NOT trying to get pregnant, it's still brilliant. For those of us with no intentions of making beh-behs anytime soon, The Booty Caller could be a organizational godsend. Who has the time or good sense to keep track of your fertile days in your daily planner, anyway?Then you can triple-bag it (kidding) or perhaps try the backdoor instead. Especially if we're going to play Russian roulette by having condomless sex (which may or may not be the new engagement ring!), we want to know precisely when we're going to get shot.
Recycled sex, Essex girls do it without condoms, some dudes don't like oral, a mother's weight gain translates to bigger babies, both presidential candidates aren't down with gay marriage, Mad Men teaches people how to date like a man, an Indian man wants an annulment on grounds of his wife's acne, Suze Orman wants you to have separate accounts, and wedding gowns for women in the military.
Planned Parenthood estimates that more than one-third of women in the United States will undergo an abortion by age 45. In the words of a friend, "Chances are, we all know someone who's had one." Despite such astounding figures, the topic remains hushed. Personal, political or religious preference make "I had an abortion..." stories rare. While a woman's right to choose is broadcast loud and clear as a political issue from every mainstream news outlet, a 23-year-old woman's blog recounting her experience having an abortion has been circulating the web anonymously. Other women are stepping boldly into the media spotlight, putting faces, names and personal accounts to the controversy.
According to People, Eva Longoria is not pregnant. And one of her costars sold her out for being 'just fat.' Cold-blooded? Nah, she stacked on a few pancakes for a new story arc. Good times. She'll probably get pregnant soon, though, she's got that itch.
Several years ago, I was in a relationship that helped me grow and change so much as a person. Until then, I didn't realize the possibilities that the world held. My mate's name was Alfred and he was a beautiful and incredible man. Things were almost perfect between us and for a long time I was happy. He lived in Hawaii and I in Tennessee but we stayed close by discussing details about outside partners and sexual situations. I had never felt so desirable and accepted in my whole life. Keywords: Open LDRs, LDRs, long-distance relationships, open long-distance relationships, sex vs love, it's just sex, pregnancy, communication