A former Buddhist nun weighs in on insights on sexuality & sensuality from a Nevada prostitute
It might seem strange that an ex-Buddhist nun and a prostitute would share similar views about sexuality. But that is precisely what happened as I read a recent Huffington post article, Sexuality vs. Sensuality: The Steady Decline of Affection in America, written from the unique vantage point of Bethany St. James, a self-proclaimed legal prostitute.
Might sexual addiction or porn addiction be an issue in your relationship?
If something seems amiss in your sexual relationship with your partner, it's possible that he is compulsively using internet porn or sexual connection with others in a destructive way. There are warning signs or behavioral “red flags” you might see if your partner is having a problem with sexually compulsive behavior:
Former Buddhist nun, Paldrom Collins, now counsels sex addicts.
In the land of the strange but true, as a former Tibetan Buddhist nun I fell in love with and married a man who counsels sex addicts and who is a recovering sex addict himself. Joining him in his counseling practice has allowed me a look into the lives of many people who have struggled with sex and relationship addictions.
Answers to your questions about sex addiction in your relationship (and a few reassurances as well)
If you are reading these words, you may be wondering if your partner is a sex addict. You may know that something is wrong with your intimate sexual connection. It’s possible that your partner is looking at a lot of porn on the Internet and masturbating or he may have escalated his online activities. He may be frequenting prostitutes, engaging in multiple affairs, or participating in other sexual encounters that are outside of his relationship with you.
The next steps you should take are very important, so pay attention.
It's a discovery that will flip your world upside down. You're browsing online trying to find that great site you'd been on the day before, when, to your horror, you find a bunch of naughty websites in your browser's recent history. You certainly weren't looking at porn... so that means your loved one was. How do you go about your day-to-day life when you know this about him or her?
This one's for a guy's eyes, but women, you're more than welcome to be a fly on the wall. It is perhaps a good spot to inhabit while taking a fresh look at the confusing, confronting topic of men and their porn habits!
Men will tell other men about how bad it was but they will not tell you.
All Vaginas Are Not Pleasing to the Male Species as Assumed
The only way you will get this information out of a man is if you have seriously hurt his ego or made him extremely mad.
Despite what one may think, a man will become uninterested for this very reason. He will never tell you because he doesn't want to hurt your feelings. How do you know you if a man likes your Vagina? How do you know he does not?
If you don't like doing it, it leaves you in the position of finding the 2% of men who do not care anything about it. This is not a favorable position to be in. The odds are exceedingly against you. But keep in mind that it's always better to know what to do and not need it, than need it and not know what to do. Who knows? One day it may grow on you. (Pun intended.) Now, if you're ready to get your hands dirty, continue to read on.
Don't let porn ruin your relationship. Understand the addiction and see what you can do!
It's no big revelation that men are driven by visual stimulation, and most men today have seen pornography in their life, especially since it's so easily available online, on cable, and on magazine racks. So what's the big deal? For one thing, I know of several marriages and intimate relationships that have ended or were severely stressed because the women were deeply hurt when they discovered their partner's addiction to pornography. Women rightfully like to feel that they are cherished as the woman most sexually-, emotionally-, intellectually-, and spiritually attractive to their partner.
Today, temptation is everywhere and cheating is harder to define--is your relationship safe?
This guest article from Psych Central was written by Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT-S
In the not so distant past, it was whispering couples hiding in dark smoky bars, lipstick stained collars and clandestine motel room romps that made up the concrete realities of relationship infidelity.
If he watches porn, is he necessarily selfish or sick? Maybe it's something else.
I’m seeing an epidemic of “porn addiction” in my office. Not of porn addiction, but of “porn addiction.”
Here’s how it looks: Wife/girlfriend somehow assumes that husband/boyfriend does NOT watch porn (guess that’s what she means by “he’s one in a million”). One day, his porn watching comes to her attention (he leaves something on the screen, she searches his website history, he gets an email or bill from some friendly porn site, etc.).
She freaks.
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