Just when we thought nothing could replace Jersey Shore on Thursday nights, MTV rolled out an even more epic show after 15 years of hiatus: Beavis and Butthead, huh, huh.
Ladies, how do you prefer to be approached by a man? There is surely no single answer to such a question—unless, of course, you're talking about a one-night stand, according to a new study. It claims that when it comes to casual sex, women prefer straightforward and aggressive pick-up tactics, and men are more than willing to deliver them.
The Nice Guy question had always vexed me, because I'm Nice—but really only in comparison to some of these hammers and nails I see in bars, aggressively hitting on you women. (I really don't know how you all deal with it.) Then it struck me one night while I was being Nice to a girl—I want to sleep with her just as much as that a-hole over there does. Which makes me just as much of a creep.
One night, over a shared bottle of wine, she was explaining the finer points of her technique, when a cute guy walked over and poked his head between us. "What are you drinking?" he asked. "What does it look like we're drinking?" I answered snottily. That night was filled with valuable lessons. The main one being, if someone asks you a question—even a dumb one—they're trying to engage you on some level, so don't shoot them down. Here are a few other flirting don'ts I discovered along the way.
The answer as to who, in the romance equation, is pickier when it comes to selecting a mate may come down to a question of who's doing the approaching and who's being approached, regardless of gender, finds a new study from researchers at Northwestern University.
One of the questions women always ask me is whether hitting on guys is a good move. I know why they’re conflicted. We are socialized to believe that when it comes to the game of love, men should be on permanent offense. And I’ll admit that on the exceedingly rare occasions when a woman has approached me at the bar, I don’t know how to react. But that’s not to say women should play the role of damsel in distress when they spot Prince Charming. You just need to be strategic in your approach.
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Just because a guy is shy, doesn't mean he's not really cool. He just takes a minute or two to get warmed up. Check out the top few ways that a shy guy may try to peacock, flirt, open up a set or jukebox his way into your, um, heart.
Anthropologist Helen Fisher, author of Why Him? Why Her?: Finding Real Love by Understanding Your Personality Type, says that understanding your personality type can help you navigate the dating waters. Using genetics and neurochemistry Fisher identified four types: about Explorer, Builder, Negotiator and Director. Which are you?
Pick-up artistry is the idea that there's a certain set of actions that, when used, will make women swoon, give you their phone number and go home with you. The idea entered pop culture in 2005 with the book The Game, and reached its nadir in "The Pick-Up Artist," the Vh1 show where Mystery, a pick-up artist, showed regular guys how to land dates. To me, pick-up artistry has two sides. It's good if it teaches socially awkward guys skills to interact with people and if it instills confidence in guys who are afraid they have no game. But the word "game" is part of the problem. When guys start to think about getting girls as prizes for winning the competition the idea goes too far. In fact these techniques actually hurt men, because they pretend to teach confidence but really they're teaching false security. Men aren't learning how to connect with women, they're learning how to trick women into thinking they're genuine, which may feel better at the club or bar, but is actually worse in the long run.
You deserve a few laughs—it's Friday! Head over to Nymag.com and read a hilarious-yet-cringe-inducing post by Neel Shah, "How Not To Hit On Models: A Primer." Unless you're easily offended, that is. Nymag.com sent Radar magazine's Neel—who is, in fact, eye candy but nevertheless gets his posts tagged under "douchebag diary"—over to a Prada party to see how badly he could crash and burn at picking-up the lovelies.
