According to the Encarta Dictionary, fear is defined as an unpleasant feeling of anxiety or apprehension caused by the presence or anticipation of danger. The most commonly use synonyms are panic, anxiety, and worry. How often do we hear those words in the media these days? The key words in that definition are the “presence or anticipation.” There are different types of fear that humans feel. Some are instinctive and helpful while others are invented in the mind and hurtful. The instinctive fears show up in the “presence” of danger.
You probably spent weeks making sure that you had the right car seat, the best stroller, the appropriate clothes and nursery for your child. It takes time and effort to make informed decisions about parenting and about our child’s environment. Today, I would like to ask you to consider an aspect of your child’s environment that you may not have thought about. What is your child’s “sonic environment?” What sounds are they surrounded by? How safe are their toys?
I am best known for teaching kids how to create their own empowering identity. In other words, how do they finish the statement, "I am..." Whether an elementary school student or a corporate CEO, how a person finishes that statement defines who they are, their beliefs about themselves and their world, and the standards they live by. It is their identity. It is the driving force behind the behaviors exhibited both in public and in private. Psychologists and Psychiatrists will tell you that it is nearly impossible for a person to consistently act in a manner that is not congruent with his or her identity. So the question is, how do we get out kids to have identities that empower them rather than hinder them as they grow?
Until the mid 1800’s, children were, for all intents and purposes, tiny adults. They worked long hard hours on the family farm, in mines, or in factories. The country was growing and needed production to sustain itself and its people. Kids were expected to shoulder their “fair share” of the burden. It was not until the Industrial Revolution when machines became commonplace and mass production was the “new normal” that society began to think about what to do with children. Think about it.
Using a musical cue for sleep with your baby and young child can be a wonderful way to help your child know when it is time to sleep. It also serves as a way for them to enter sleep more easily and is a wonderful tool to build a bedtime routine around.
I’m not here to talk about the safety of bed sharing. There are experts and studies for that. Co-sleeping works for us. It might not work for you, maybe it didn’t work for your neighbor or your cousin in Indiana.
A 3-year-old Oregon girl underwent invasive surgery over the weekend after she ate 37 magnets, ripping holes in her lower intestine and stomach.
Success in life, friendship, business, family dynamics and spiritual growth has self-confidence and self-esteem at the foundation. People who have a confidence in their personal worth seem to be magnets for success and happiness everywhere they go. As parents and caring adults you will want to share methods and techniques to build self-confidence with the young people in your circle of influence. One of the most important part of teaching a life-skill is to improve the concept in our own lives.
By: Talking Teenage, Jennifer A. Powell-Lunder, Psy.D. for GalTime.com The second she walks into my office I can tell she is in distress. She does not mince words. “I’m afraid my daughter’s a stalker,” she blurts. I see immediate relief in her face once she verbalizes this. She proceeds to tell me about her daughter’s behavior in regards to a new crush. The specifics of her tale aren’t as important as her very real concerns.
With all the articles about the importance of free play in the lives of our children you may be wondering how to encourage it in your home. Here are some of the best ways to encourage free play in your life with your pre-schooler and school age child, plus a few ways to be a good example by incorporating play into your day. Pre-schoolers 1) Make a fort. Make two forts! Inhabit them with stuffed animals and whoever else is around. Make up stories about who lives in the forts and what they are doing. 2) Make big paintings. This can be as easy as rolling out craft paper on the floor, putting on an old t-shirt for a smock, some brushes and paints and going to town. Cut up sponges and fingers are also great as substitute brushes. Display the results. Wonder together if there is a story or a song or dance that goes with the drawing. 3) Be a band. Make instruments from old cans, combs, whatever you have.
When your children are small, it is easy to be wrapped up in the joy of being their parent and knowing that you are the center of their world and they are the center of yours. As they become teens, they begin to pull away and seek independence in preparation for heading out on their own. This can leave a parent feeling unwanted, unneeded and without a purpose. Emotions can run high and you could end up feeling alone and falling into the trap of using emotions to tie your children to you even if you know independence is the best thing for them. Here are eight tips to keep in mind as you head into this emotionally taxing time.
How often have you heard, "You can do anything you set your mind to!" Things have changed. From "What do you want to be when you grow up?" we've come to, "Just be grateful if you have a job." Teenagers are watching adults flounder, and their dreams are slipping away into apathy. And adults have often given up on their dreams entirely and now just hope to survive.
An Old Chinese Proverb states, "Parents who are afraid to put their foot down usually have children who tread on their toes." Clearly some form of structure is needed to keep the peace and limit the chaos. With these 3 powerful parenting secrets, you do not need to yell or scold, but you do need to be consistent and firm.
It is well established that free play is vital to the development of our children. You may be wondering what you can do at home to help. How do we cultivate creativity and a sense of play in our children? Here are some ideas. With Babies: 1) Play the musical face game. Assign each part of the face or the body a sound and then “play” those sounds as you touch them. This is a great way to get rid of the crankies! Watch my how to video from our musical parenting course here.
Every parent wants to raise their child to be strong. To be able to pick her or himself up after falling, shake off a poor grade at school or a mean comment from a "friend." The ability to do this and stay focused on your inner strength is an important lesson in childhood...and actually in life. With twenty years of working with parents and children, I have found there are certain things that resilient kids do and I share 3 key ones here.
You return home after a magical date, your heart filled to the brim with dreams of your future together. You're sure this time, sure that this is the one. You've talked about all the heavy issues - your career dreams, his crazy uncle, your teenagers - and he's said all the right words and assured you that together you can work out anything. As you slip out of your heels and head to the bedroom, you can feel your heart beating a little faster. Gently he closes the door, you light a candle, and then completely melt into his arms as lips and hearts meet.
Getting tired of the constant battles with your teenager? You are not alone! Parenting teens is one of the toughest jobs in the universe, and you often struggle with how best to create healthy relationships, enforce good boundaries, and help your teen as they navigate through this challenging growing up process. Parenting teenagers can make you question your parenting ability, push all your emotional "buttons", and create a home atmosphere of overwhelming stress.