Wondering what the recipe is for creating a bully? Well, I have some good news. We are beginning to have some answers thanks to a new study by Douglas Gentile and Brad Bushman published in the July issue of the Psychology of Popular Media Culture.
Oh no, just when I thought that I had heard and seen it all I am made painfully aware that I haven't. A British mother named Chantal Marshall is apparently perplexed that one of her five daughters is currently not in favor of getting breast implants. Apparently her four other daughter have conceded but 14 year old Britney is not in favor and the mother is bewildered. The youngest daughter of the clan would like to focus on her studies at this point rather than on her cleavage. This youngest daughter of the family may be breaking with family tradition and yes it may cause a rift.
Oh yes, I am going to add even more material to the working outside of the home versus the stay at home mothers' debate.. I never intended to add to this already vitriolic debate but a very interesting question was posed to me. And, as always I can't resist an interesting question,so here goes.
How to Get Time for Intimacy (without Spending the Big Bucks) if You're Parents of Small Children (EXPERT) To have intimacy in a relationship, couples need to have the four T's: Time, Talk, Trust and Touch. But for many parents of small kids, finding the time to talk and touch intimately is difficult. Who will take the kids? It's a problem.
Do parents lie to their kids? Do kids tell lies? Why do we lie, often when the truth would serve us better? We recently had a group of friends and relatives in our home for a dinner party. After some great food and general conversation, I asked them to help me with this project. Everyone was supportive and eager to assist in writing a book. But when I asked them to tell me why they lied, there was a shocked silence.
They are extremely stressed out - One of the biggest issues facing teens is not necessarily grades, peer pressure,parents, or drugs/alcohol, its stress. They wake up with stress, live with stress, then go to sleep with stress. Teens stress about everything that goes on each day. They stress about college, they stress about how they look, they stress about failing, they stress about their friends, the list goes on. Furthermore, stress directly impacts their level of confidence.
Summer road trips can be lots of fun but can also be risky. Consider the results of a Canadian study. According to a new survey conducted in Ontario,Canada by Angus Reid for Insurance Hunter,an online insurance quotes provider- parent drivers may be dangerously exhausted behind the wheel. The survey found that by the time many parents got on the road they were already tired. In fact, 30% of fathers and 14% of mothers reported nodding off while driving on family road trips. These are alarmingly high percentages.
The truth is, there is no perfect way to parent, and often, methods of discipline will be based heavily on a parent's past experiences with discipline themselves, particularly when they were children. There are alternative ways to discipline a child, with some being more popular than others, that do not require physical harm.
Most parents are not comfortable thinking about their teens having sex, much less talking to them about it. Also, social norms and religious beliefs make things more complicated and more emotionally charged. However, I cannot stress this enough that this may be the most important conversation you will have with your teens ... because it has the power to truly save their lives.
On his website, Amderson Cooper poses the question, "Are you an unconventional parent?" Initially, the question confused me. What is unconventional? Is it the millions-of-years-old, affectionate, closeness-seeking child rearing? Or is it the less-than-hundred-years-old stimuli-response based non-affectionate style? And, more importantly, whose advice should we follow?
Are your children lost in cyber space? Do they prefer the company of video games and television to the family? Are their only friends on Facebook? Can they day dream and use their imagination to create wonderful games or activities on their own? Do they need someone or something to tell them how to have fun? If so, they need to develop their amazing imagination and think of new ways to solve problems, create possibilities and think their own thoughts. Here are three great ways to plug in imagination
Are you concerned because trying to communicate and connect with your kids is hard? You are competing with video games, friends, school, sports, hormones, growing pains and lack of interest on their part. Please believe me as a parent educator, mom, gram, auntie, neighbor and friend that being pro-active in getting and staying connected is worth it. A solid foundation of loving adults and caring family is a strong leg up in life.
Last week I was talking about two different approach to child rearing: the ancient, closeness seeking bonding between mother and child and the stimuli-response style "Let the child learn from I don't react style." Here it is: http://www.yourtango.com/experts/zita-fekete/unconventional-parenting-part-1