As a parent of a teen or tween, what could be better than more moments when your child wants to be close enough for a hug and to sit and talk to you? You’ve been told to expect the eye-rolling and attitude and pulling away when they hit the teen years. Yes, it’s normal for this to happen; however, it doesn’t mean it has to be this way, and that you have to suffer through it.
There are many times when a child after divorce is struggling — even suffering. These children need extra help. To identify a child in distress, you need to evaluate whether there have been serious changes in their behavior and personality. It is not a complete change of personality, but a more extreme version of how they were acting before the divorce. Some examples are ...
Traveling with your teen doesn't have to be a bust because with a little preparation, traveling together can be something the entire family can look forward to. Before you plan and pack up though, you'll want to be sure to avoid any triggers that can turn a potentially terrific vacation into a terrible one.
Did you have a difficult childhood? Are you afraid your children will suffer emotionally as you did? If so, help is on the way.
Today is a day of blessings and thankfulness. I get to spend Mother's Day with my very own mother and my fabulous kids, as well as my hubby. As I observe my little family and notice all that I am thankful for, I can't help but think about the many people who walk into my office and lack their own mother to celebrate with.
I have the wonderful opportunity of having many educators in my life. Several of my dearest friends are educators. Many of my colleagues work in the school setting. I knew at an early age that education would be important in my own life and pursued an education undergraduate degree. Although, I have never been a “teacher” in a classroom filled with kids, I have been an educator to many through the trainings that I do. My favorite topic to train educators on is “Strategies for Educating Traumatized Children.”
Today was a bit of a tough day at work. I sat with a family who has weathered one of the worst storms that a person could ever imagine…childhood sexual abuse. Children, under the age of 5, traded for sex and video taped for porn. Now, a decade later, these children have to deal with their inner demons. No, they are no longer living with the people who did this to them. No, they have no contact at all with anyone from that part of their life. Yes, they are physically safe. Yes, their heart and their minds are changed forever.
WARNING: I will be ranting today! I have some major energy in the above topic. So, if you are easily offended or sensitive, please stop reading now and return for a later blog! That said, let’s chat about tolerance versus acceptance. I see the word “tolerance” everywhere…teach kids tolerance, we need to tolerate others, human resources departments that have tolerance policies…ugh! This drives me crazy. The reality is that tolerance is much different and less positive than acceptance!
Anger is a powerful, strong emotion, so we need powerful, strong strategies to help release that anger. As adults, we need to have our anger strategies figured out before we attempt to figure that out with our own children. Then, we must remember that our children's emotions are their emotions, not ours.
As a therapist who sees teenagers, I get this questioned posed to me often…Stacy, I don’t want my child to drop out of school, but they refuse to go and I don’t know what to do. What should I do? I often approach this topic from “what is your child communicating to the rest of us that we aren’t hearing?”
One of the best feelings in the world is when a child’s eyes light up in recognition and they run at you, throwing their little arms around you for a big hug and cuddle. I remember promising myself when I was about ten years old and dealing with my father’s death that I would never lose that innocence, and wonder and joy for life.
Dear Dr. G., I just read that teen girls are much more likely than teen boys to show signs of depression. This worries me because I have a set of 13 year old fraternal twins and the girl looks like she may be a little sad. Her brother, on the other hand,is happy-go-lucky and nothing can ruin his day. The two of them came into the world differently. My son was an easy baby. He slept through the night at 3 months of age and was a good eater. My daughter was always fussy and hard to soothe.