Before I gave birth to our first child six years ago, my husband and I discussed our son and the manner in which he would be raised at length. One question we did not answer until a nurse posed it in the hours after delivery, my newborn baby boy nestled snugly in the bend of my arm, was whether or not our son would be circumcised.
Since the invention of Viagra, life has been pretty awesome for the older guy. It's been a little like being Catholic: You could go bananas for years, and then settle into the role of a family man around the time you start losing your fastball. It's been a pretty good system, keeping older fellas and younger ladies together, with each something to offer for the other. The arrangement's been perfect because a guy's DNA factory keeps cranking out the sticky stuff late into life.
Recent research has shown that language has an impact. A new study has found that the phrase, "That's so gay!" can have lasting effects on students who consider themselves as bisexual, gay, lesbian or transgender (LGBT). Words matter, there is no doubt about it and what we say to our children can and will have a lasting effect of their future happiness.
Do you find yourself fighting the urge to say to your teen, "Been there, done that. Let me show you how it's done"? I do, too... although looking back to my younger days, I can honestly say that I learned the most when I had to solve things myself. (On a personal note, my children were amazed to hear that when I studied abroad during my junior year of college, I was only able to call home three times. There were no cell phones, no computers or email, and it cost $40 for a 20-minute phone call, which I had to make from the post office.
Parents, teachers, extended family and neighbors recognize the special challenges of those who love and teach learning disabled children and adults. They are usually sensitive, kind and giving as small children. Because they are small in stature, people are more forgiving of what they can and cannot do. Teenagers With Learning Disabilities
Many of you are sending your kids off to college now; some of you are doing it for the first time. I've been there twice, and now my daughter lives overseas! Most of the time, I'm okay with it ... you get used to it, you know? But sometimes ,when she sends me little notes, or we chat on Skype, I miss her all over again.
The summer of 2012 has come to a close and it is back to school time for parents and children all over the country. It is time to awake your children early, give them a good breakfast and send them off to school in their new clothes. I know as a mother of two that these tasks can certainly be challenging at times.
Mars Venus feels you should love and cherish your children. Every child is different and should be treated per their personality in order to obtain positive results. However, there is always those moments when parents should have the confidence to lay down the law in order to gain their child's respect and raise a capable young adult. The key is to find the balance between strict and lenient. If your child is walking all over you, here are some tips for reclaiming your rightful role as head of the household:
Imagine trying to communicate with someone who speaks a totally different language. Perhaps, a foster parent who is raising a foster child, a stepparent learning how to raise a stepchild. What are our choices? Do we continue to say the same thing over and over, hoping that the other person will understand our language? Do we learn to speak their language?
As John Gray, PhD, so famously states Boys are from Mars, Girls are from Venus and all Children are from Heaven. Societies throughout the world are currently undergoing a global shift in consciousness to the possibilities that lay ahead for us when we focus on relaying positive messages and reinforcing positive behaviors.
Whatever. Fine. I don't know. Do those phrases just push every button you've got? It used to make me crazy when my (now 27-year old) son answered 'cool' to everything, including incredibly sad news. It took forever for me to understand that 'cool' just meant 'I heard what you said.'
As a parent, you want what is best for your children. You want them to be smarter, better looking and more well-rounded than you are. You want them to be liked by their peers and to succeed in school. As such, you worry. And, with worrying comes anxiety which can turn into depression. Here are five ways to help you stop worrying so much:
7 Ways To Parent Better Teamwork What responsibilities do you and your spouse take on as parents? It’s important to find your style of parenting with teamwork. How do you help each other? Do you have to ask or is it just expected? It’s important to communicate with one another what your strengths are as parents because it will be easier to divide up tasks.
I often work with parents who report that they are struggling with gaining their childs cooperation and that their child doesn't "listen". Usually, when I ask for a specific example what I find out is that it is the parent who was not listening to the child, but not intentionally. Children, particularly younger ones, communicate through their behavior which is often misunderstood by their parents. Let me explain with an example. One weekend our family was out furniture shopping and my then 3 year old daughter needed to go to the restroom.
Have you seen the movie, All I Wanna Do? It's a relatively unknown film from the late 1990s. On the surface, this movie about an all-girls boarding school in the early 1960s is fluff. But as the story develops, we learn that some of the girls are there because they are rebels, hard to handle, there because their parents didn’t know what else to do. Fluff, fluff, fluff… And then they learn that, because of financial difficulties, the school will merge with a boy’s prep school.
One of the most damaging things you can do to your child is to use them as an object of your anger. Here is a list of dos and don'ts that can assist you in parenting in a way that best protects your children while you are going through your divorce.