By Barbara Greenberg, PhD, Teen Parenting Expert Yep, we all do it. So let's have a little fun looking at our "parent fails"- those moments of parenting gone awry where we had the best of intentions but no guide to tell us exactly what to do. Those "oh no, did I just do that or say that? moments are inevitable if you are a parent who is deeply immersed in the parenting game. And, during this game wrong and awkward moves are bound to happen, REPEATEDLY.
When it comes to parenting, Secret #8 – Be Consistent, is one of the most important. Whether you realize it or not, the simple strategy of being consistent fills multiple needs for your child’s development. There are some things that EVERY child should get consistently no matter what. Every child should know that he/she is loved unconditionally every second of every day. As a parent, there is NOTHING more important than that. Being loved is the most secure feeling that anyone – child or adult – can have.
The story this week that a New Jersey mom allegedly let her 5-year-old daughter suffer second-degree burns by placing her in a tanning booth shocked the country.
As parents, we are in a role of teaching our children so many things to help them prepare for adulthood. It is an important job, a difficult job and a very rewarding one. Our primary goal to to ensure that our children enter adulthood with sufficient skills in the areas of education, relationships, emotions and basic life skills so that they need to navigate successfully, both professionally and personally.family in sunset
This is the time of year when graduates, especially high school and college graduates, hear lots of advice on being successful in the next phase of their life. As a licensed counselor who works with high school students, I think it’s time for some advice for those who are going to begin one of the most important phases: High School. High School: It’s not as hard as you think it will be.
Don’t teach your kids what to think… teach them how to think. The process of thinking is actually the process of asking questions. Questions do two things: 1, they stimulate responses. 2, they guide the focus of whoever is involved in those questions. So, if you’re not getting good answers (or any answers at all), ask different and better questions. How many times have your kids asked you a question from their homework? How many times have your kids asked you what to do in a particular situation? How many times have you told them the answer?
I was completely horrified as I heard the sound of my mother's voice coming from my mouth. Words I swore I would never say to my children came pouring out, and I could not stop. All those dreams I had of creating a better life for my kids than the one I grew up with disappeared, to be replace with a sense of rage and futility. Why was my present parenting being controlled by my abusive history? I felt victimized all over again, and determined to find a solution.
A Florida couple used their 3-week-old baby's bedroom in an illegal marijuana grow-house operation, according to the Hillsborogh County Sheriff's Office.
Every child is unique in his or her own way even if they look just like you. Just because you enjoy baseball, dancing, music or reading, doesn’t mean your kids will enjoy the same things. Just because you have a skill or affinity for something doesn’t mean that they will. Just because you are in the same gene pool doesn’t mean you swim in it using the same stroke.
Few things empower people (especially kids) more than giving them ownership of the decisions that effect their lives and circumstances. When they decide for themselves, they have both emotional and intellectual “skin in the game.” So, let’s talk about Parenting Secret #5 to Empower Kids: Decisions Have Consequences. Let your kids make choices for themselves and then let them live with results – be they positive or negative. Kids must understand how the decisions they make affect their lives.
Do you sacrifice your own needs in order to satisfy your kids? You may have your priorities all wrong. In this video, Hypnotherapist, Psychologist and YourTango Expert Dr. Shoshana Bennett says that contrary to what many parents believe, it isn't selfish to put your own needs first. "Selfishness implies that something is happening at someone else's expense," she explains. When you put your own needs before your kids, you're not harming them at all ... quite the opposite, in fact.
As if divorce isn't hard enough, what's a parent supposed to to when his or her ex is spoiling their kids with gifts in a shameless attempt to buy their love and loyalty? In this video, Family/Relationship Therapist, Bestselling Author and YourTango Expert Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil explains how very common this unfortunate experience is and what you can do when it happens to you.
How many times have you seen one of your own “less than favorable” behaviors exhibited by one or more of your kids? It could be something as small as using poor table manners or as significant as lashing out in anger when things don’t go their way. Either way, it is vital for you to understand that children learn how to react from the people in their environment. They mimic the behaviors of their role models. Simply stated, kids emulate adults behaviors until they become anchored and become their own.
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