From The Boston Globe By Carolyn Y. Johnson Joyce Dales went through 30 guys on Match.com before she found her Jedi Knight in shining armor. "I was either too strange or they weren't strange enough," she said. Eventually, she found and married Jeff Dales, a "recovering lawyer" from Nottingham, N.H., who was geek enough to sprinkle Star Wars references into his first flirtatious e-mails. But the long list of rejections, from teachers and lawyers and other professionals scattered among the millions of profiles she encountered on popular dating sites, showed Dales that people like her had a problem: Online dating -- once the domain of geeks -- had gone completely mainstream.
Online dating sites eHarmony and Chemistry.com are in a lover's quarrel writ large. The sticking point: Should a site be allowed to outlaw would-be members? Anyone who's tried online dating knows that sooner or later, they'll probably be rejected—by a potential suitor. Yet over one million would-be daters have been blocked from joining online dating site eHarmony. Now rival dating site Chemistry.com is capitalizing on the site's rejection policy, with a 10 million dollar ad campaign calling attention to the fact, and positioning itself as a welcoming, come-one-date-all alternative.
See what a year of online dating does to one author. In the first few months, I went on seven first dates that went nowhere fast. I received four "winks." I ignored six men. Four men ignored me. Then, as winter gave way to a glorious spring, I experienced my first sustained epistolary romance. I received a lovely note from a fellow writer. Within nine days we had exchanged 57 emails...
Dating can be tough. Dave Singleton, author of Behind Every Great Woman There’s a Fabulous Gay Man:Advice from a Guy Who Gives It to You Straight, suggests first date locales that help both of you feel comfortable and where you might even (gasp!) have a bit of fun.
Looking for love can be about as much fun as having your teeth cleaned. Forget about the mundane dinner and movie. Kristine Kern, self-described as "one of the dating masses" talks to Dave Singleton, author of Behind Every Great Woman There’s a Fabulous Gay Man: Advice from a Guy Who Gives It to You Straight and The Mandates: 25 Real Rules for Successful Gay Dating. Together they came up with a few refreshing first date ideas that can help you get a better idea of your prospective partner. Also included: bad first date ideas.