Anthropologist Helen Fisher, author of Why Him? Why Her?: Finding Real Love by Understanding Your Personality Type, says that understanding your personality type can help you navigate the dating waters. Using genetics and neurochemistry Fisher identified four types: about Explorer, Builder, Negotiator and Director. Which are you?
The 90 Days program is a four-pronged approach. The first thing you do is identify and break your "Deadly Dating" patterns. Then you go on what I call a "Dating Program of Three," where you date three guys—no sex with any of them. Number three—you do the inner work where you work on your self-sabotaging ideas, your beliefs, like "I'm too old," "I'm too fat" or "There are no good men out there." You also cultivate what I call your "Diamond Self," which really helps you bust through shyness. The last thing that you do is you get yourself a "Love Mentor." Now this is somebody who is like a fairy godmother, who gives you the most profound support and really helps you find "the one." And all of these things work together and help you succeed in creating the love you really want.
If you’ve ever logged in to an online dating site, you’ve probably come across the profile of a laid-back guy looking for a girl who is outgoing, smart and funny. This guy likes to spend time with his friends and family. He’s always up for going out but also likes to stay in with a bottle of wine and a movie. His profile picture includes at least one animal or old person. We know you’ve come across this perfectly inoffensive, but obscenely boring guy, because there’s not just one of them. Rather, there are thousands of men with nearly identical profiles on any given site–be it CasualKiss or Plenty Of Fish.
To save money and "stress," a couple of lovebirds in Illinois decided to marry in their local Taco Bell. The unique location was "appropriate" for the couple's "offbeat relationship," according to the groom, Paul Brooks, 30. Not only did the pair already share a last name, Paul and his Australian-born bride Caragh Brooks, 21, lived on different continents when they met on an online dating site and began a nine-month long distance courtship, according to the Daily Mail.
Facebook has existed as the Wild West for far too long. It's time that someone codify what is and is not OK to do with your fellow human beings on Mark Zuckerberg's creation (collaboration). Social media needs to follow rules in the same way that society needs to follow certain protocols of etiquette, otherwise it's going to be friggin' anarchy. Here are those rules.
At what point in the dating process should you start looking into your crush's criminal record, professional history, and offshore investments? Is there any right time? And what will you find out if you choose to start poking around? The New York Times has some answers, and so do we.
How does someone end up not having sex for 15 years? By accident, swears writer Kit Naylor on Salon.com. We've all had dry spells, but man, 15 years is one hell of a dry spell! Naylor is a middleaged woman, a self-described recluse with two cats and no kids. She calls herself "a spinster long past my sell-by date." Spinster! We think that's a sexist way to refer to herself, but nevertheless, we admire how she got that way: she wants to be in love to make love. It seems that by eschewing casual sex and being committed to personal integrity, she's condemning herself to accidental celibacy.
There is literally nothing to lose by logging onto PlentyofFish.com, a 100%-free, online dating site that draws plenty (78,250 on a Friday afternoon, to be exact) of fish. It takes less that ten minutes to set up a profile, which is appropriately string-bare–after all, no one said quality comes free! What does come for free is access to thousands upon thousands of singles people, including instant message and e-mail privileges. Users can sift through profiles using basic search options. Users can exclude members they've already viewed and still get a large pool of eligible profiles. For match-making help, users can take a Chemistry Predictor quiz comprised of 48 seemingly-minute questions about self-confidence, family orientation, self-control, openness and easygoingness. PlentyofFish uses the results–which are pretty general so don't expect any real breakthroughs–to make matches on your behalf. There is also a 100-question Relationship Needs Assessment Test, which can't hurt if you've got the time!
Conservative dating site eHarmony will launch an offshoot dating service catered to gays called Compatible Partners, the company announced today. According to the settlement of a New Jersey discrimination lawsuit, the site must launch by March 31 of next year and be marketed in gay and lesbian media outlets. In addition to a large dose of pride from gay supporters, the man who filed the suit, Eric Mckinley, will receive $5,000 in damages. He filed a formal discrimination complaint against the site in 2005; a similar case against the company is underway in California. Whether or not the New Jersey ruling will affect the California suit is still to be determined.
A personality test used by members of PerfectMatch.com, an online dating and relationship service, derives "perfect matches" based on similar and complimentary factors. In addition to the questions posed above, the initial analysis includes questions on literature, music, sense of humor, approach to money, romantic gestures and pet preferences to seemingly provide for more perfect matching. It is clear from the thorough assessment that the site caters to those seeking serious relationships, so seekers of one-night stands would fare better elsewhere. Each member receives a love and compatibility classification called a Duet Type, comprised of similarity factors (romantic impulsivity, personal energy, outlook and predictability) and complementary factors (flexibility, decision-making style, emotionality and self-nurturing). A member's Duet information is showcased in a five-tab profile which includes open ended questions and photos. PerfectMatch provides matches based on member's Duet information. Users can also use their own judgment to search through over four million active profiles using compatibility factors, keywords or custom (savable) searches. One helpful feature on the site is the bookmarking application which lets members organize people members they have contacted with notes for future reference.
Americans may be cutting corners these days but it seems they’re saving plenty of pocket change for love. In uncertain economic times, reports Market Watch, online dating sites thrive. Granted, the stats come from online-dating site Perfectmatch.com, which reports a 47% spike in members over the last quarter. An exception to rule? British men. 90% of 'em said they would give up on their romantic relationship to save money, according to a Skipton Building Society study reported by Debt Management Today. A YouGov study reported that 47% of 2,400 British adults said they would spend more money if they were in a relationship. Money issues aside, it seemingly pays to be in a relationship. Reuters reports that physical affection may serve as a buffer against work stress. Findings of the journal Psychosomatic Medicine has found that intimacy –be it holding hands or sexual intercourse- decreases levels of the stress hormone, cortisol. Never mind stress. A Reverend at a Grapevine-based Fellowship Church is challenging married couples to have sex –which he compares to Super Glue- every day for a week, according The Dallas Morning News.
Have you ever seen one of those plain, black and white signs advertising an online dating site for a very specific area? Love Buzz used to see one that said "Single? SohoDating.com," and we always wondered if anyone used the site—the signage was so budget looking and we'd never heard of Soho Dating other than on those signs. We saw similar signs around other parts of Manhattan and figured someone was trying to corner the New York dating market. Little did we know, there was something much more widespread going on.
The clever tone of the site spills over the design elements, evidenced in each profile, which calls for longitude and latitude (instead of height and build) and "ganja"-smoking habits (midnight tokers and nicely baked members are welcome on the site). There are plenty of open-ended answers, such as "My therapist describes my personality as:" and "To get my lover hot, I:" Under "Media Stuff" users can reveal what they read on the can, what their DVD is usually spinning, and what their Jukebox grooves to-these are the site’s words, not ours! Profiles also include an insanity test (ink-blot inclusive!) and a purity test, the results of which classify users' "lusty purity" -as (strangely) republican/conservative, "super friek" promiscuous, plain "frieky" or playful. As one may guess, the questions are pretty personal, so users can chose to keep their scores private or public. Users can then use the results to screen members using the spam application, a saved search which that lets users hide from other members.
As the saying goes, (and as the great Michael Jackson has said) "It don’t matter if you're black or white." InterracialMatch.com is an online dating site for those that agree. Users join because they are fascinated by other cultures or especially attracted to a race besides their own. Run by parent site SuccessfulMatch.com , InterracialMatch resembles sibling sitesBikerKiss.com and PositiveSingles.com in appearance and application. While this happy online dating family does offer highly segmented audiences to online daters seeking singles in a specific demographic, SuccessfulMatch sites leave much to be desired for those seeking a seamless web experience on a pretty-looking page. Picky, picky!
Your single self may be a product of nurture and nature, but your relationships are a product of compatibility and chemistry, or so says Chemistry.com, Match.com's sister online dating site. Chemistry.com differs from its sibling site since it targets singles who are serious about finding long and meaningful relationships. Chemistry.com uses extensive personality profiling to access the personality type of its users and hand-select compatible matches. The fancy-schmancy personality profiling is based upon the work of Chemistry.com's very own biological anthropologist and expert on human attraction, Dr. Helen Fisher. The Chemistry.com profile consists of 100-plus statements such as "People should behave according to established standards of proper conduct," and "I feel emotions more deeply than most people." Chemistry.com users choose from four responses on a scale of strongly disagree to strongly agree.