Profile photos that make me go "oh come on".
Megan Capone, 34, had some experience with online dating when she first messaged now-husband Jim Capone on Match.com. "I thought he looked like a model," said the social media and marketing consultant and blogger. "I wrote, 'I'm impressed, how about you?'" Jim, 37, had been on Match for about six months and was taking a break from the site when he got Megan's message. "I wasn't even looking at the time," said Jim, who works for a financial software company. "She kind of tracked me down." The duo discovered they lived only five minutes from each other in Dracut, Mass., and grew up in neighboring towns with rival high school football teams. They started emailing almost daily and chatting on the phone after a week. Even though he was interested, Jim made Megan wait for a date. "Something I learned over the years is to be patient," he said. "We paced ourselves." When they met in person, they went to Barnes & Noble, then to an ice cream shop. It was while eating their treats that an endearing goof made Megan realize Jim was something special.
In a former life filled with long lunches and spray tanning, I was a reality show casting director in Hollywood. I worked on some wildly popular prime-time hits as well as some pilots that never saw the light of day. I started my career at Blind Date, back when MySpace was still a place for friends and Facebook was a twinkle in Mark Zuckerberg's eye, and I'd often turn to this "new online world" to search for contestants. Dating tips gleaned from casting The Bachelor and other reality TV shows. I had just started dabbling in online dating myself and navigated the virtual waters with ease. I'd post clever ads on Craigslist and flirt with guys on Friendster, all in the name of casting the show. But try as I might, I couldn't always rely on the Internet to find willing male participants—I actually had to go out and meet men. In real life. I was very shy. I'd sweat in the weirdest places when my nerves would kick in. So whether on the clock or not, I would always say I was "casting a show" when I'd approach good-looking men. That way, I'd never feel jilted if they declined my advances. But casting the shows taught me how to build my self-confidence and, frankly, helped me meet a lot of guys. Even an '80s teen icon. Sadly, most guys I encountered were of the typical vapid L.A. fare, leaving me to kiss a lot of bottom-feeding mouth breathers before I actually met a nice, normal, gainfully employed gent (a qualification both for myself and most of the shows I worked on). And this got me thinking—what else did casting reality dating shows teach me about life and love?
Thanking the other woman. Spoil the cuckquean and punish the other woman. Christian cartoons against infidelity. Marrying a gay man for his green card. Cohabiting needs a prenup. Leave the magic tricks to David Copperfield when flirting. The state of American Herpes. Tom Matlack on the link between fatherhood and male camaraderie. Referring to one's self as "romantically challenged." Online dating deja vu. And saying I love you the right way.
2010 Boomer Trend Report: 7 Highly Effective Habits of Successful Online Daters: I'd hear countless stories about people meeting online and marrying; it just never happened to me. After six years of email exchanges, hundreds of dates and trips to California, Chicago and DC to meet people, I decided that if I was looking for someone serious, I'd better make a commitment too.