The one-night stand "before" is almost as exciting as the "after" is awkward. Everyone's keyed up. Irrespective of booze's involvement, there is a certain headiness that something sordid is in the offing. So you do what comes naturally, and some time later tunnel vision returns to normal vision, your heartbeat lowers to its regular pace and blood begins circulating into it's standard route, rather than pooling in various locales. Yep, you just got some FA*.

Now comes the awkward part. As one million thoughts flood your brain, you try to read the other person's mind by starting sentences with … Read More

As a single lady who has lived in a big city for years, and now moved to a new one, I've had my fare share of one-night stands. I'd never call myself someone who makes a romantic life out of having a lot of random sex. In fact, my heart stands more on the traditional side where I look for sex after the relationship connection, knowing I usually wind up hurt in casual flings and that I actually disdain the thought of adding another one-nighter to my "list." The Frisky: 5 Things I'd Do Differently If I Re-Lived … Read More

If you think the headline: Men Less Picky For A One Night Stand is as obvious an observation as The Sky Is Blue then, yes, you'd be correct. One Night Stand Dos And Don'ts

But it is our job to report when (yet another) study reveals that men enjoy casual sex and probably won't turn it down if you offer. Even if you aren't of supermodel caliber, or hell, even average looking.

Achim Schützwohl and his research team of Brunel University in London rounded up groups of American, Italian and German men and women for a … Read More

These days, women are suckers for anything labeled "lite," whether it's cookies, ice cream or bacon-flavored spread. It was only a matter of time before we started taking our intimacy lite too. Intimacy lite is a new way of dating, bridging the gap between casual sex and full blown relationships.

Two of my favorite sex writers, Em and Lo, recently posted a piece about intimacy lite. As they say, "If you’ve ever spooned your booty call or held hands with your one-night stand, you’re familiar with intimacy lite… commitment-phobes (i.e. 99.9% of male college … Read More

The social and economic contract of a freelancer is that you're there to fill a temporary need. You're an extra set of hands, some extra expertise. You hope that the projects come in steadily enough to allow you to stay on, but you know that there may be a dry spell, and when that day comes, it's hardly a surprise. There's also the implicit understanding that when there's more work, you can come back.

It's simply not personal. But that's the downside, too. "I never got emotionally attached," said Marco. And he would have liked to; he's a social kind … Read More

Yesterday's Smitten featured a letter from a reader who was perplexed about how to handle a crush she had on her roommate's buddy. As with most crush-related quandries, the pressing issue at hand was "how do I tell him?" But there was one main difference between this reader's crush and the standard "your friend is cute" variety. Namely, the fact that she'd already slept with him.

Of their one-night of magic, and her subsequent feelings, she says: "We were extremely drunk, and he came home with me and we had sex...and now I want to date him. He … Read More

One recent night at the bar, as I was sipping on my Long Island, a nearby guy began hitting on me. He asked me to dance, and my inebriated-state told me that this was a good idea. However, upon our dancing (read: trying to maintain balance in heels) and conversing (read: finding out basic facts), he told me casually that he used to see one of my sorority sisters. He said that he was surprised he hadn't met me before, as he had slept at the house so often.

Red Flag. Peace out, playa.

He seemed a little peeved and surprised … Read More

Married men looking for a loophole that allows for a little sideline action is nothing new. In fact, the idea of an open marriage is as much a part of the new male fantasy as say, a first-round draft pick or a three-point basket at the final buzzer.

But open marriage isn't just a guy thing. Referred to as "monogamy 2.0" or "negotiated wedlock," there's an entire vocabulary dedicated to spouse-approved affairs. Along with the lingo comes a limited permission slip to partake in extramarital activities without getting grounded. Think of Larry and Cheryl David's agreement on Curb Your … Read More

Sex is kinda like a cell phone. You can live without it, but in the end, would you really want to? Like our cell phones, we all end up taking what we can get in a pinch. We may not be happy with the phone (or person) we choose, but sometimes anything can be better than nothing.I've taken the liberty to analyze the various sexual shenanigans we get ourselves into, and I think I've come onto something. I'm starting to think that our sexual partners closely resemble that of our cellular telephone devices. Think I'm full of s**t? Well … Read More