The one-night stand "before" is almost as exciting as the "after" is awkward. Everyone's keyed up. Irrespective of booze's involvement, there is a certain headiness that something sordid is in the offing. So you do what comes naturally, and some time later tunnel vision returns to normal vision, your heartbeat lowers to its regular pace and blood begins circulating into it's standard route, rather than pooling in various locales. Yep, you just got some FA*.

Now comes the awkward part. As one million thoughts flood your brain, you try to read the other person's mind by starting sentences with … Read More

As a single lady who has lived in a big city for years, and now moved to a new one, I've had my fare share of one-night stands. I'd never call myself someone who makes a romantic life out of having a lot of random sex. In fact, my heart stands more on the traditional side where I look for sex after the relationship connection, knowing I usually wind up hurt in casual flings and that I actually disdain the thought of adding another one-nighter to my "list." The Frisky: 5 Things I'd Do Differently If I Re-Lived … Read More

I've been warned by my editor to keep this one as classy as possible. Will try my best, suckahs.

My homegirls at EmAndLo.com (Em & Lo, natch), let their man panel loose on this query: Do dudes like bitchy women? (If they'd said, "Riddle me this, do boys like brassy broads," I'd have said "yes," and written ad nauseum about my love for Steven Spielberg's wife's, Kate Capshaw, in Indiana Jones And The Temple Of Doom).

The guys give great answers but the Straight Married Guy goes on a tangent that I dig. His … Read More

Serial man-izer ("whoa-oh, here she comes") Sienna Miller has told the New York Post's Page Six that she is not a big fan of one-night stands and prefers relationships. The actress goes on to say, "…and I'm not going to spend time with someone unless I love them. But it's not hard for me to fall in love." Read: Does Sienna Miller Deserve Another Chance?

Sienna Miller also claims that she has not been on a "date" in her entire life nor has she had a one-night stand. Not to be too technical about the whole thing … Read More

Sorry, I can't promise it won't happen again, I recognize that it upsets you, but I'm still stuck CBS's decision to run three primetime sit-coms on Monday evening revolving around the consequences of treating women shabbily. Barney, Charlie and Russell (the fun-loving womanizers from How I Met Your Mother, Two And A Half Men and Rules Of Engagement, respectively, played by Neil Patrick Harris, Charlies Sheen and David Spade, also respectively) were eyeball-to-eyeball (figuratively) with a Don Juan's scariest adversary*: the wrong, pissed-off woman. (I'm all out of love for the term "scorned woman" at the moment; let's … Read More

There was a pretty out-wait for it-standing episode of How I Met Your Mother (HIMYM) on the television last evening (it was a rerun, episode # 58, Season 3, "The Bracket"). At any rate, Barney (played by Neil Patrick Harris (NPH)) has a problem with a jilted lover busting up his game (not his chifarobe) and the gang sets out to find out who it is using an NCAA Tournament Bracket. As usual, hilarity ensues.

Although Barney doesn't learn the identity of this lady (that happens in episode #63, Season 3, "Everything Must Go"), he does eventually … Read More

The night's going great, you can't believe you're hitting it off so well on a first date, he's a great kisser, you take him home…

Whatever you do, don't sleep with him.

You've heard it before, but I'm not going to browbeat you about the immorality of going all the way on the first night. I'm also not going to say, as the London Telegraph does, that you're likely to drive away relationship material if, as the adage goes, the man "gets the milk for free." (If that drives him away, then be glad you're seeing the taillights.) … Read More

Over at Lemondrop they asked a fun question recently, is it OK to ask him out using company email? The writer, a Jennifer S, goes into some detail providing circumstances and asks for advice given her specific situation, it's worth reading and doling out your own personal 25 cents* on her individual bind (it's another one of those dang deals where someone has to take their clothes off first).

In the meantime, dating at work, in general is a subject worth exploring (exploring? Or exploding?), but before we do, let's watch this video:

That was hil-wait for … Read More

It's link time, again, friendo. Lots of good stuff has been happening on the interweb lately and sometimes it's just too hard to find it all on your own. Without further ado, links: Ever enter a dimension of not only sight and sound, but also of the mind? A journey of the imagination with a platonic member of your preferred gender? Ever want to get out of the Friend Zone? The Frisky explains how. Dang it to H E double golf clubs. I had no idea that getting caught in Just Friends-istan was as much as an issue … Read More

It's been a long, hard week (yes, that's what she said), and I've decided to coast rather than charge into the weekend. That means one thing, link time!

The editors over at Lemondrop do not care for irritating couples. And here I thought I was the only one. I readily agree that yo-yo daters are quite vexing (they call these on-and-off a-holes The Strobe Lights).

Jezebel wants to know what you think of the quite perturbing trend of smittens, the mittens made for holding hands. At least someone's not trying to sell you a bathrobe … Read More