Jessica Simpson's "get thin or get dumped" ultimatum and a partner who only wants adventurous sex.
A debate broke out on YourTango earlier this week when Celeb Love reported that Jessica Simpson's fiance, Eric Johnson, is rumored to have issued an ultimatum: if she doesn't lose weight by their wedding, he's calling it off. Does the wife of a professional athlete need a fit, skinny wife? Should Jessica find love with someone who appreciates her as she is? Has Jessica "let herself go"?
How much sex should married couples have? Experts sound in on sexless marriage and long-term love.
Jennifer (name changed) didn't have sex with her ex-husband on their wedding night. "I chalked it up to fatigue," she says. But should it have been a red flag? Well, maybe. It's not that it didn't happen that one night that was the problem; it's that it was the first of many sexless married nights. As an engaged couple, Jennifer and her guy were doing it about three times a week, but once they said their vows, it quickly dwindled to about once a month—sometimes less. YourTango reveals the truth about sexless marriage.
How does someone end up not having sex for 15 years? By accident, swears writer Kit Naylor on Salon.com.
We've all had dry spells, but man, 15 years is one hell of a dry spell!
Naylor is a middleaged woman, a self-described recluse with two cats and no kids. She calls herself "a spinster long past my sell-by date." Spinster! We think that's a sexist way to refer to herself, but nevertheless, we admire how she got that way: she wants to be in love to make love. It seems that by eschewing casual sex and being committed to personal integrity, she's condemning herself to accidental celibacy.
This week's Modern Love essayist just doesn't like sex.
When all is said and done, there’s not much to like. I mean, really: What is the big deal?
So writes essayist Lauren Slater in this week's Modern Love section of The New York Times.
If you suspected Mr. Lauren Slater may not be too pleased that "sex interests me these days about as much as playing checkers," you'd be correct. The authoress writes that her husband's sex drive far surpasses her own.
The tricky thing about differing sex drives is that assumption, which hangs over the relationship like a storm cloud, that "something's wrong" with the less interested partner. Fear? Guilt? Anxiety? Depression? Medication? Anti-depressants? Painful intercourse, called dyspareunia? Some might even try a visit with a sex therapist to explore possible reasons. But what if you find deep down, conclusively, that you just don't like sex?
