Yesterday's episode of The Revolution on ABC was all about "jumpstarting your sex life." When the conversation turned to how 15 to 20 percent of people are in no sex or low sex relationships, and the knee-jerk reaction was "That's saaaad," Tim Gunn interjected and admitted that he's been celibate — and is NO SEX, absolutely none! — for 29 YEARS.
According to the calendar, it’s time for all of us to be of good cheer. According to the media (and peer pressure, and our own internal pressure), it’s also apparently time to have great sex, and plenty of it. However, Sexual Intelligence suggests the opposite approach: that sex during the holidays may not be such a great idea.
I am with a man who used to be very passionate and loved to make love to me and now he doesn't make love to me at all and its been this way for a couple of years now. He is 9 years older than me and I am 56. I am very attraction, sexually appealing, so men tell me, and have a positive attitude and am very kind and understanding. We don't even sleep in the same bed anymore. He says he loves me and we will be together forever and he's a nice man and is respectful but I miss the passion that was once there.
Are you in a committed relationship with a man who refuses to have sex with you? If so, you are NOT alone. Many women are sexually unfulfilled in their partnerships. Take comfort in knowing this and in knowing that, in most cases, his lack of desire has NOTHING to do with him thinking you are not beautiful or in good enough physical shape for him to want to enjoy your body through sex.
Has your sex life fizzled out? Do you want to restore the sexual intimacy in your relationship? Can you have a healthy marriage without it? 14 Things That Lead To A Sexless Marriage In this video, YourTango expert and marriage educator, Sherry Amatenstein gives some tips on how to get back into the groove of sex. After a lengthy recess in the bedroom, it will be like your first time again!
As someone who makes a living writing about, lecturing on, and loving sexual interaction, it's difficult to imagine a world where sex doesn't matter. I'm not saying such a world doesn't exist—it certainly does.
Why is being sexless so trendy? Oh, let's blame Samantha. The Observer blamed the rise of Facebook and the fact that we live in public on the fact that young people are no longer terribly interested in sex, Erica Jong claims that young women place more emphasis on monogamy and motherhood.
Are you falling out of love, or is it just a bump in the road? Lately it seems like all my boyfriend and I do is bicker. It's not fighting, it's not arguing, it's not hating just mere bickering. At some points, I don't even want to see him, because you can cut the tension with a knife. He comes home from work, cleans himself up, and plops down on the recliner for some television (repeat episodes) and his laptop to look up glorified, unattainable goals. If I ask him to run to the store, go shopping with me, or run some errands he is very willing, so most women would wonder why am I bitching?
Ever since we began researching and writing He's Just Not Up for it Anymore, people have been asking us: "How come?" Why do men choose to stop being sexual with their partners? We discovered that this is a complex question with a wide variety of answers, because there is rarely only one reason. For example, a man suffering from erectile dysfunction may be too embarrassed to admit it to his spouse or even his physician, and find it far gentler on his ego to believe that his wife doesn't enjoy sex very much anyway or that he's just plain bored with her. This may anger his wife, who feels undesirable and unloved. He responds by being angry at her, and they enter a kind of feedback loop of marital discord that is difficult to get out of.
If you met me, you'd think I have everything. Twenty-five years of marriage to a very warm and attractive man, a lovely house, wonderful children and enough money to enjoy ourselves. But I still feel there's something missing because we stopped having sex about 10 years ago, as my husband said we were too old for it. It had sort of dwindled off when the children were very young and we were very busy but, just as I thought it would start to perk up, my husband showed less and less interest.
Slow paced, fast paced. Does it even matter?
