new relationship
Fear of commitment? Follow these tips and get over it.
I've been working with heartbroken people for over 25 years as a psychotherapist. I've listened closely as they tell me they've been abandoned again and again, can't seem to find someone, can't get a quality relationship to last. The truth is that they are experiencing invisible barriers that prevent them from finding the right love. The first step to overcoming these barriers is understanding them. Here are some of the common scenerios:
Abandon-holism: You've been hurt so many times, you've come to confuse insecurity with love. When someone comes along who is willing to commit, you don't feel the "right chemistry." … Read More
When your partner needs your help, here's what you should do.
One of the best things about being married is that you have someone to lean on when the going gets tough. But even in new relationships, knowing that someone cares about you is helpful when you're having a hard time. When your partner is stressed, consider proactively offering support, instead of waiting for him to come to you. Here are six situations when your partner needs a little extra loving. 101 Ways To Improve Your Relationship Right Now
When they have an important day at work. Even if he doesn't look like he's stressed, his big day at work … Read More
Five signs your BFF is detrimental to your new relationship.
Society has well-worn, oft-rhyming phrases for when it comes to choosing between friends and boyfriends: "Bros before hos," "Chicks before dicks." But despite all these handy expressions, most of us know that when relations between a close friend and a lover go sour, picking a side is vastly more complicated than three-word idioms. 3 Tips For Introducing Boyfriend To Friends
Psychology Today recently posted an interesting article titled, "Could YOU Be a Toxic Friend?" It describes five signs that determine whether you are the one being a bad friend. We decided to flip the perspective back around to … Read More
How to maintain friendships when starting a new relationship.
As a single friend migrates into serious couple-dom, there is always a period during which relations with existing friends can take a turn for the worse. Everyone has had that friend who falls off the face of the Earth once she's roped into a new relationship. There's also the girlfriend who won't stop talking about her newfound love at the expense of everyone else's interest. Read: My Friends Don't Get My Relationship
Face it, dynamics between friends can change at the drop of dime when a new man gets involved. Perhaps you, too, have been a perpetrator of … Read More
It's a really good policy to not neglect your friends when starting a new relationship.
Do you know what couples skating is? I'm sure you do. I'm sure that you've been both perpetrator and victim of this nefarious practice. Now that we all know we're in the same boat, let's discuss what couples skating is and is not.
Couples skating is not turning figure eights on an icy surface. Couples skating is neglecting your friends. Couples skating is not doing the now-outlawed Detroiter for the delight of fans and scorn of judges. Couples skating is spending five weekends in a row at home. Couples skating is not performing the legendary Iron Lotus. … Read More
Cynthia Rodriguez says 'Almost Famous' starlet is a 'better fit' than Madonna.
Apparently the former Mrs. Rodriguez wants to play favorites with her ex-husband's love interests: she's made it clear that she prefers his latest lady, Kate Hudson, to the Material Girl.
According to PopCrunch, sources revealed to TransWorld News that Cynthia Rodriguez believes the Almost Famous star is an step up for the Yankees third baseman.
"Cynthia adores Kate," said the insider, "She's a huge fan of Kate's movies and thinks Kate is a better fit for Alex than Madonna was."
Cynthia may have a point there. Though the romance seems to have come from left field, Alex and … Read More
So you're wading through the trenches of a new relationship. Awesome. Don't screw it up.
1.) I'm Into Girls/Guys Who Look Like XXXXX (which isn't what's right in front of you)
Into blondes but asked out someone dark-haired? Usually stick to your own race/religion but felt frisky one day and now find yourself sharing appetizers with another skin color? Pat yourself on the back, and keep this tid bit to yourself. This one should be a no-brainer. Really. Nobody likes to hear in the beginning that they aren't what normally makes your head whip in double-take. Oh, and you also run the risk of coming across as shallow or racists. Or a shallow racist. Not hot. … Read More
Ten rules to help smooth the road with your new beau. Common sense? Yes. Commonly practiced? No.
The beginning of a relationship can be a tricky course to navigate. Guys (like me) aren't so good at guessing what women think or want, and our stupidity can lead to otherwise easily avoidable arguments. Setting some basic rules with your new flame may help you get past the small stuff and start enjoying your lives together.
Here are ten guidelines to smooth the road with your new beau.
1. P.D.A. regulation. People have different comfort levels when it comes to couples behavior in public. Find the line (holding hands, smooching, heated necking on the subway platform) and don't cross it. Read More
How early do you talk about politics in a new relationship?
During the vice-presidential debate, my normally peaceful relationship with my husband turned into a Soviet-era showdown. We both sat icily on opposite sides of the couch, and when I snorted at Sarah Palin's winking he glared at me. When he mumbled "lies" under his breath while Joe Biden was talking, I chucked a pillow at his head.
An iron curtain has descended in relationships across the country—on one side lie McCain supporters and on the other side Obama backers. With a looming economic crisis, two wars, a crumbling health care system and the future … Read More
