Stop nagging your man. Really. The Wall Street Journal recently claimed that nagging — which the WSJ defines as "the interaction in which one person repeatedly makes a request, the other person repeatedly ignores it and both become increasingly annoyed" — is the biggest marriage killer and likely to lead to divorce. Yikes!
In relationships, women often find themselves having the same conversation with their men, and hoping that this will finally be the time that they get what they want...or that their men are finally aggravated enough to change.
Is your girlfriend or wife constantly telling you the same thing over and over again ("take out the trash, go to the doctor, don't sit like that..."). Do you want it to stop without it negatively affecting your relationship? 5 Ways Nagging Is Like Torture In this video, Dating Coach, Healer and YourTango Expert, Louann Schwager Tung explains the difference between living in fantasy (i.e. what you wish someone would do) and living in reality (i.e. what they actually do).
How many times have you asked your partner to put the cap on the toothpaste? Or put his dirty clothes in the laundry basket instead of on the floor? When our requests get blown off, we are often left with feelings frustrations that slowly push us to our wits' end. Before you jump to the conclusion that your partner doesn't care, is insensitive or is just plain lazy, give the following techniques a try!
If you’re in a serious relationship with a man, chances are you’ve nagged him about taking out the trash, throwing away his junk mail, making a dentist appointment or exercising. The list goes on and on with the same conclusion: Most men procrastinate. And they are even less likely to accomplish a task with a woman over their shoulder complaining. Although it may be tempting to fly into a rage next time you trip over your man’s wet towel, it’s best to keep your cool. Here are some ways to avoid acting like his mother.
Do you focus more on the negative than the positive? Can you find a million things to complain about but only a few things to praise? Do you find yourself constantly complaining and it annoys even you? If so, don't beat yourself up about it. It is, after all, a perfectly normal human tendency. If you're walking through the woods and you step on a wildflower, no big deal. If, however, you step on a rattlesnake, BIG deal. So, in effect, we are wired to pay more attention to the negative.
Why do men seem to be attracted to mean, bitchy girls? If you're nice and considerate, is he going to grow bored of you? Why Some Women Need to be "Bitches" In the Bedroom In this video, YourTango expert and Relationship Coach LiYana Silver dissects the allure of the "bitchy woman," and explains how you can create the same effect in a new or current relationship without being a ranting, raving, mean girl. Find out why it's all about "the hunt."
Gretchen Rubin, author of the brand new book The Happiness Project, has a suggestion for people who want to make their dating lives happier: Quit nagging!
Sometimes being told what to do is really nice. It's not that it divorces you from the consequences. But being told exactly what to do can take the thinking out of something you clearly don't want to do. However, being on the business end of a constant stream of critiques, veiled orders, words to the wise and "helpful" hints is a major bummer. It's not just ladies who nag, fellas do too — but we call it carping, hectoring and emotional battery. We like to say, "All's fair in love and war," but if the Geneva Convention makes it illegal to pull out someone's fingernails to get them to spill when the next attack is coming, it stands to reason that telling someone to hang up their polo four times in one week. Nagging equals torture.
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You know perfectly well that you nag at him, but what else can you do?
