Is there really a Mr. Right? If so, how do you find him? Dr. Diana Kirschner gives some great advice and urges everyone to keep an open mind when seeking "the one."

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You are in a state.

"Pangs of love," you say as you roll over on the couch, pantomiming stab motions to the heart. Your roommate looks bemused. It's the third or fourth date, and you've been struggling to hold off sending those late-night, inappropriate text messages. "Head. Heels. You. Me." (send—no wait, delete.) New Relationship Rules: Texting & IMing

Instead, you're on your knees, head in hands, summoning the forces of the universe to carry your love-cry out to the one you desire. Does he hear? Maybe. Will it be returned? The silence of everything that has not been … Read More

Why do smart women settle for Mr. Wrong? Let's take a look at one of my clients. Nina is a beautiful brunette with a magnetic personality. She has a large circle of friends and a fabulous social life. Why did this dynamic twenty-something give it all up to marry a compulsive liar?

"I was twenty-eight years old and all of my friends were getting married. We had dated for three years and I didn't want to waste all the time invested in the relationship. I also ignored the fact that he lied about everything. He lied about his … Read More

Buzzfeed posted a great list from Tiny Cartridge of "Boyfriend Criteria," including the usual "smart," "cute," "funny," and the more unusual like "did not pick Charmander as first Pokémon." There's also a list of pluses ("glasses," "good shoes," "good tattoo") and minuses ("annoying," "too tight pants," "think you're sooo smart").

Since I'm getting married in three days (!!!), the list got me thinking about my "husband criteria" and how well my fiancé fits my list. The Frisky: Wedding Survival Guide

Let's see how he does.

Husband Criteria Checklist

1. Kind √
2. Funny … Read More
   

Love Bytes: Four must click dating, sex and relationship links.

These signs will stop relationship trouble before it begins. [Divine Caroline]

Some red flags are obvious: your date would invite you in for coffee, but he doesn’t want to wake his mother. Your date would be happy to go to the movies if she could just find a sitter for her octuplets. Other red flags are more subtle, like a woman sharing her story of looking at the stars, but not letting you get a word in edgewise.

Is Mr. Right Now better than waiting for Mr. Right? [TresSugar]

Here's … Read More

Finding a good man should be a unique experience for every woman and based on her personality. You must know what "good" means to you, decide where you enjoy meeting people, and simply relax. He's out there, waiting for your natural charm, beauty and intelligence.

Define "Good"

Everyone is different, and although most people will agree that a wide-reaching handful of generic qualities like "funny," "intelligent," and "honest" are "good," who wants to be generic when you're looking for Mr. Right? You want specifics, little portions of his personality that sparkle in your eyes and invade your soul. Forget good, … Read More

Trumping news of war, health, food, pets or fashion, the most e-mailed item currently on The New York Times' site is Maureen Dowd's column from July 6 called "An Ideal Husband."

In light of celebrity divorces stealing recent headlines, Dowd turned to a man whose motto on marriage would have to be "Do as I say, not as I do": a Catholic priest.

His advice is not of the "Thou shalt..." variety, in fact spirituality is mentioned only as a cautionary tale of the heartache experienced after the failed marriage of a devout Catholic and a devout … Read More

At some point in a woman's life, provided she's single long enough, she'll come to know what one could call dating burnout.

It's like the possibility of finding Mr. Right has cried "wolf" one too many times. She's had enough of engaging third dates that never lead to number four, months-long relationships where commitment talk is taboo and otherwise feeling like she's settling for someone against her gut instinct--just because he's there. Hopeful becomes skeptical, so that when a seemingly "good guy" comes along, warning flags abound: "uh oh, we've been here before."

So was the case … Read More

Sometime when I wasn't looking, Valentine's Day metamorphosed from a C-list kids' holiday, with pink and red candy and construction-paper hearts, into an extravaganza. The regular-person equivalent of Oscar Night, but instead of Best Picture or Best Supporting Actress, prizes are given for Best Achievement in the Acquisition of a Leading Man.

But what if you don't have a new pet "project" to promote or arm candy to show off? Better stay home rather than remind everyone that you couldn't land the role of girlfriend, even for one night. Cause being single is cause for as much mortification … Read More

Q: I am well-educated, and spent much of my twenties teaching in a foreign country. I fell in love with a much older, married dignitary and was his mistress for several years; eventually, the adventure lost its allure and I returned to the U.S. so I could finish growing up, meet my true love, and raise a family. Since then, I’ve had some wonderful infatuations, but have not met anyone who felt right for the long term. Now, in my mid-thirties, I want children with a committed partner, but am unable to find that … Read More