The semi-Sapphic ménage a trois is supposed to be ultimate male fantasy*. But all is not as dandy as candy in "2 chicks at the same time" land-y.

I'd first heard of the downright anti-American idea that a girl-on-guy-on-girl could be anything other than legen-wait for it-dary in an old issue of Maxim (Read: 9 Things I Learned About Women From Editing Maxim). In an article debunking sexual fantasies, a writer said the reality of a threeway was having to hear, "are you finished yet?" in stereo. "But what did he know," I thought, "he's just some nerd writer … Read More

"I see an exciting adventure in your future, a new sexual experience that forever changes you," she said, tracing the sole of my foot with one soft fingertip. Her husband grinned at me from the bed. I sat half-naked in the overstuffed armchair and trembled with nerves.

This is not how I'd imagined my first — or any — threesome. I'm not bisexual, and I can count the number of times I've been physically attracted to a woman on one hand, with two fingers left over.

Yet here I was in a cute little southern California inn with a … Read More

I was 17 when my sexual education began.

"You are responsible for your own orgasm," my boyfriend told me. He was the guy I lost my virginity to, the guy I had my first orgasm with, and the guy whose words would one day become my mantra: I am responsible for my own orgasm. I believe that literally and figuratively. In bed, I play an active role in getting what I want. But I also take charge of getting what I want throughout my sexual life. That’s why, along with a husband I adore, I have lovers. My husband and … Read More

In my previous "Marriage Without Monogamy" post, which you might want to take a look at now before reading further, I decided it might be interesting to temporarily steer away from the confessional-style essay this column has become known for. I just wasn't in the appropriate mood, I guess, to work through yet another one of my unconventional relationship issues on paper. And yet judging from some of the very blunt comments this column has inspired in months past, I figured that at least some of my regular readers might be willing to share a few … Read More

Good times. Perez Hilton is reporting that some chick claims that Owen Wilson picked up some broad at a club in Miami and brought her back to his boat for some action. Per her account, someone (maybe Vince Vaughn) was waiting the wings for a little threesome. That's right, this Miami resident (or possibly tourist) may have been the meat in a Double Down-Hansel sandwich. The woman said that she bounced as soon as the idea was introduced and never actually saw the other dude.

A Miami Herald celeblogger claims that Wilson has been … Read More

You may recognize Tilda Swinton as the overreaching corporate attorney in the George Clooney's Michael Clayton. Or you may recognize from her crazy red carpet couture. Or you may recognize her as the titular witch from The Chronicles Of Narnia: The Lion, The Witch, And The Wardrobe. On the set of that fantasy spectacular she met a young man named Sandro Kopp who is 29 to her 47. He was a centaur, which is a legendary creature that is half-man and half-horse (bottom half horse, of course). The centaur is sometimes confused with the faun or satyr, which has … Read More

Bisexuality is more than a passing phase says a recent study by the American Psychological Association. In fact, going both ways appears to be a distinct sexual orientation. The study, conducted by Utah psychologist Lisa M. Diamond, PhD, followed 79 non-heterosexual women for over a decade (i.e. long enough to account for any college-age swings of the pendulum), and found that the bisexual women maintained a stable pattern of attraction to both sexes. The research also seemed to debunk Anne Heche Syndrome: in other words, the tendency to seduce and wed … Read More

Hollywood rarely depicts sex accurately: near-instantaneous, always-simultaneous orgasms? Sheets that conceal only naughty bits? But on screen threesomes get at least one thing right: the act is often hot and the aftermath is often messy. Everyone betrays everyone else in the movie Wild Things. A friendship is doomed in Y Tu Mamá También. And in HBO's Entourage, Turtle and Drama must deal with the heterosexual male nightmare of having "crossed swords."

Of course, that’s not to say all threesomes lead to disaster. Inviting someone else into bed can … Read More