David Duchovny first broke it to the mainstream media, Bryan Jenkins, the reality TV show contestant who allegedly murdered his wife, was rumored to have suffered from it, and now, ex-ESPN analyst Steve Philips is seeking rehab for it after a sordid affair with a young production assistant. We're talking about sex addiction and the gossip media is all abuzz about this newfangled condition since these three recent, high-profile cases. 

PsychCentral.com defines sex addiction as, "a progressive intimacy disorder characterized by compulsive sexual thoughts and acts." Obviously, this is frustratingly vague—what's to keep any serial cheater … Read More

 Question: I've never really explored my own body "down there" if you know what I mean. I'm eager to give it a try, but, embarrassingly, I don't know where to start. Any tips? -Cara

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You finally worked up the nerve to buy a vibrator.

Now comes the big hurdle: introducing your fella to the new battery-operated man in your life. Yes that's right—just because you have the real thing at home doesn't mean the two of you can't shake up your sex life with a toy. We asked Claire Cavanah, co-founder of sex shop Babeland, for tips on working a vibrator into your twosome. "Adding a little stimulation during intercourse can bring each of you to new heights." Lemondrop: How To Buy Your First Toy

Popping the Question
Of course, you may have reservations about asking … Read More

Again, I've scoured the best and worst of the interwebs love and relationship content for you. It's my pleasure and please enjoy.

Awesome as always, Em & Lo (EmAndLo.com) discuss 10 things that most people don't know about hermaphrodites. I'm half-ashamed / half-relieved about not knowing the Star Wars one. On a separate note, I got a spam today entitled "Prove your male gender to her."

A scene in the classic Mall Rats involves Jason Lee opining on why Lois Lane could never be Superman's woman, and it had to do with his super sperm. Asylum tells us … Read More

This is going to sound like a mantra spewed from way left field—but are orgasms the enemy? Orgasm For An Hour (Yes, We're Serious)

Have we been duped? Do those blissful 10 seconds sign us up for a lifetime of crankiness, despair and anxiety? Would the pharmaceutical industry experience a huge decline if we just settled for sex sans the big O? 

Marnia Robinson, author of Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships thinks so.

Yes, sir. Robinson has spent years studying "ancient sacred-sex prescriptions" and the verdict is in—orgasms are worthless. Fun … Read More

Not long ago, Ira Rosofsky, a psychologist specializing in elder care, was asked to treat a nursing home resident for masturbating in front of an aide. Rather than treat the elder, however, Rosofsky took issue with the nursing home. As he saw it (and explains it in today's LA Times), the resident had no choice in the matter. The facility, after all, had no privacy. Open doors were the norm. Closed doors were treated with suspician. And staff members routinely entered residents' rooms without knocking.

Under the circumstances, Rosofsky thought it was inevitable that a staff member would, sooner … Read More

We hear about relationships torn apart by internet porn addiction, but where are the support groups for smut-loving women like me, who suddenly and inexplicably get turned off by porn when they fall in love?  Before I met my boyfriend, I was visiting youporn.com about a half an hour a day, hunting through dozens of clips to find the one most perfectly calibrated to turn me on. 

After I met my boyfriend, my visits to the site dropped off in equal proportion to how much I was getting off with a flesh-and-blood human being.

But my loss of appetite for porn … Read More

If you want to enliven your next dinner party, bring out this question: what was the subject of your last sexual fantasy?

Forks and jaws might drop, but only because almost everyone in attendance will be recreating the scene last played in their head, or claiming that they don't fantasize, or claiming to only fantasize about their partner. However, chances are everyone at the table (assuming you're not dining at a senior center) has erotic and illicit fantasies, and does so on a normal basis. But rarely, if ever, do we want to talk … Read More

Part two of a four-part series on male infertility. Click here to read parts one, three and four.   

Right around this time, my Amy and I decided to move to California. Perhaps a fresh start, a fresh perspective would help. 

My wife's doctor in NY sent her to a doctor in Beverly Hills, who sent her to a fertility specialist, who sent me a doctor whose first name sounded a lot like "Pappy." He was the doctor to see for guys whose guys need to get going. 

Pappy had a slightly goofy personality. … Read More

Part one of a four-part series on male infertility. Click here to read parts two, three and four.   

When I look back on the courtship that led to my marriage, I fast forward through a carousel of emotionally charged moments: the night we met, the night we first slept together (not the same), a postcard she sent me, our first weekend away together, a Ray Charles concert, a birthday party (mine), a birthday party (hers), a Hamptons summer rental, a Sam Cooke album, an Al Green concert, a vacation in Europe where I almost proposed but didn't, … Read More