We were once pulled into a cab, on the fly, and told by a boyfriend that we were going to a surprise place. Turns out it was a basement spot in New York City's Chinatown where 30-minute reflexology foot massages were ordered up. It was our first experience with reflexology and it was heavenly. Indeed, on the scale of most-romantic-things-a-boyfriend's-ever-done, we'd have to say this ranks among the very highest. Shocked? You shouldn't be. More than red roses, a massage or surprise trip to the masseuse is one of the most romantic, caring gestures a loving … Read More

So Heather Graham played an entrancing porn star in the film The Guru and got Mike Meyers all hot and bothered as Felicity Shagwell in Austin Powers: The Spy Who Shagged Me. And right now you can catch her portraying a stripper in the comedy The Hangover. Seems that playing these sexy (and sexual) roles have started to rub off on her real-life sexcapades. Could More Porn Actually Make Us Healthier?
 
Heather revealed to the Mail on Sunday all about her love and appreciation of the art of tantric sex but made it very clear that it's nothing like Sting has … Read More

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 A how-to guide for erotic massage. [Smitten]

Squeeze the cheeks with your hands and make your hands into fists to massage him. The book recommends leaning over him so you can use the weight of gravity to help you massage; that way, you don't get as tired.

Ten things you should never type. [Lemondrop]

Could the DMV be dirtier than we think? [Asylum]

An OB-GYN in British Columbia was recently suspended for asking out a patient- an ethical no-no according to the British Columbia College of Physicians and Surgeons' annual report, which dually notes its recent review of the 28 sexual misconduct allegations of 24 different physicians in 2007. The report vaguely recounts the telltale signs of inappropriate conduct -as if there is any question whether sexual intercourse may be inappropriate during a typical pelvic exam. Also far from surprising: "sexualized touching" appears on the list.

While readers of "The Female 'Happy Ending' Massage" story have suggested that a client's relationship … Read More

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Chances are you've heard the story: an unmarked door leads to a dimly-lit massage parlor where women with strong hands and tolerant smiles await a train of libidinous male patrons. The "happy ending" tale is all too common, a mixture of truth and urban legend that captivates male imaginations even in an age of casual sex and unlimited Internet porn. Read: Does Casual Sex Screw Up Emotional Intimacy?

"It's always a certain … Read More

Chances are you’ve heard the story: an unmarked door leads to a dimly-lit massage parlor where women with strong hands and tolerant smiles await a train of libidinous male patrons. The "happy ending" tale is all too common, a mixture of truth and urban legend that captivates male imaginations even in an age of casual sex and unlimited Internet porn.

"It’s always a certain type of place," said Brian, a 41-year-old screenwriter who admits to visiting the odd "men’s spa" or two (though never, of course, for that). "You go for a reason, and you know what you’re getting … Read More

If you're like most Americans, chances are good that you have preconceived notions about tantric sex. Many dismiss it as the domain of new-age hippies who wax poetic about chakras and life force. But these days, as tantra programs pop up in spas, yoga centers, and private homes across the country, the practice is finding a host of new adherents.

Tantra, from the Sanskrit word for "interwoven," is an ancient philosophy threaded through Hinduism, Buddhism, and Taoism. While Westerners tend to associate it with the acrobatic positions illustrated in the Kama Sutra, practitioners say it actually has little to do … Read More

After dismounting your partner's white stallion, Thundersnow, the two of you enjoy a candlelit meal of champagne and strawberries in the manicured organic garden next to the orphanage and motorcycle-repair shop he runs.

Your crystal flute empty, he immediately gives you a massage, until he's overcome by your beauty. His bulging triceps—though he's a wealthy philanthropist, he keeps in shape by working as a mailman, pool boy, and plumber—ripple as he tenderly, lovingly, emotionally rips off the size-two bodice you bought on sale.

And then, just when things are getting really good… your Tequiza-addled boyfriend accidentally falls off the futon.

That kind … Read More

Sure, a great rubdown can put anyone in the mood—but if getting your partner's kinks out is always about seduction, you’re missing out on a powerful bonding experience.

By exploring each other's needs through the selfless act of massage, you can learn how to make each other melt, physically and emotionally.

"Massage is about giving and receiving," explains Dr. Deborah Musso, director and founder of Sea Change New York, a Manhattan wellness center. "With massage you gain a whole new understanding of how to create intimacy: Set a sacred space, let go of tension, … Read More