Blow jobs are overrated. There. I said it. I know men who would fight a grizzly bear with a spork for a little mouth love. I also know women who guard their oral sexing technique the way a pharmaceutical company protects its most precious patents. But I'm just not a dude who loves blow jobs. I'm an active guy, when it comes to being intimate with a woman, and laying back and letting her go down on me has always felt passive to me. Disconnected. As if I could lean back and read The Economist or slurp a bowl … Read More

Oral sex: brilliant, isn't it? It's ridiculously intimate, severely sensual, and you don't necessarily have to take all your clothes off to do it. Whether it's part of foreplay or an act in itself, being a skilled fellatrix ramps up your bedroom (or back seat of car) technique considerably. 
 
But trust me, there's more to fellatio than, as we Brits so tastefully put it, getting your gob round his nob or your gums round his plums. The best oral sex exponents use their mouths, their tongues, their fingers, their eyes, their voice and—most importantly—their brain (but not their … Read More

Hey, ladies, we can't just turn it on and turn it off like some kind of GD (or GE) light switch. The magic needs a little conjuring. A little hocus-pocus, maybe a tipple of witch's brew and some tongue of snog go a long way to making Jack a fun boy*, namean?

And the interweb is reporting that our swimmers aren't too different. Per our good buds at The Frisky, sperm have to be activated (turned on, yeah baby!) in order to do their thing, fertilize, make plenty, put babies in bellies, et cetera. The process is … Read More

In our piece, The Myth Of The Male Orgasm, we wrote about men who have trouble coming—it's not as uncommon as you think. In fact, an AskMen survey found that 23% of guys have faked it at some point.

Women impersonate the O for various reasons; a common excuse is not wanting to hurt his feelings. AskMen says that guys do it for the same reason. "The prevailing opinion is that men should be able to climax whenever, wherever and under any circumstance," which simply isn't true. Your dude might have trouble peaking if he's tired, stressed or drunk, or … Read More

YourTango had some great sex this year. That is, we published some great sex stories. (We had some excellent between-the-sheets time as well, but we'll save that discussion for another time...) In 2008 we learned about the female happy ending massage (they exist, but you have to know where to look); how to keep your sex life strong when you've got wee ones running around (domesticity it seems, can kill your sex drive); sex parties—from the perspective of club owners and a first-time party-goer, (they're both more and less scandalous than you think); the male … Read More

We were perusing the old iVillage yesterday and bumped into an article siting a correlation between divorce and Major League Baseball (MLB). It turns out that the cities with Major League Baseball clubs (baseball talk for teams) have lower divorce levels than those without them. The article they clipped from explains the trend thusly: baseball is a fun, family-friendly game that promotes good family interaction and saves marriages. So, if you're scoring at home, MLB has gotten to the people in the divorce theory business. It was only matter of time after getting to The Congress. They're doing … Read More

My friend Alex's "first time" story is rather typical: equal parts awkwardness and pleasure finishing with a big, faked orgasm.

"At some point I realized that as pleasant as the sensation was, this particular stroking motion from intercourse wasn't going to lead me to an orgasm," Alex explains. "So when it seemed like the right time, I grimaced, made some appropriate noises, and no one was the wiser."

What makes this story atypical is that Alex is a man.

That men reach orgasm easily and definitely whereas women work long and hard … Read More

Why does sex feel so good? Why does climaxing feel even better? With dudes, it’s pretty straightforward. Signals get sent from areas dense with nerve tissue to the areas of the brain responsible for pleasure. With women, it’s not so easy to define.

First of all researchers are trying to figure out why the female orgasm is different from the male one. The female orgasm is shrouded in mystery, in the film Jay And Silent Strike Back Will Ferrell’s character declares, “No the clit is real. It's the female orgasm that's the myth.” So, … Read More