lying
When it comes to relationships, why do we lie? Plus, how to spot a liar.
Despite the warning of countless children's stories, we humans still lie. Has the fear of growing long, wooden noses or becoming a wolf's next meal taught us nothing?
A recent study of 5,000 online daters found that in online dating profiles, lies (albeit minor ones) abound. Men are inclined to lie about things like personal achievement, interests, past relationships and age. Women, on the hand, tend to lie about their weight. Why is that we often find ourselves lying to those we love (or hope to one day love)? We see the damage that the lies of those like Tiger … Read More
From white lies to whoppers, watch out for these 7 lies men tell.
By Dr. Joyce Brothers for Reader's Digest.
The topic of trust is an important factor in all matters of the heart—and here's why. Men lie to women. Women lie to men. And most people agree that some lying is even necessary—to avoid petty squabbles and to grease the wheels of a relationship.
But there are crucial differences in the lies women and men tell. A study by psychologist Bella M. DePaulo of the University of Virginia found that when women lie, they tend to focus on making others feel better—such as the woman who tells her hostess that dinner is "simply … Read More
Faking orgasms for a good reason, getting revenge with a hooker and do guys snoop?
Happy Friday, friendsters. Many of you, particularly federal employees and bankers, have a three-day weekend to look forward to. And the day before any long weekend is generally spent feverishly work or is totally bo-ring. Either way, here's the best of the web from this week:
The Frisky is on to you, fellas. They've compared your "number" (number of sexual partners, that is) to census data and something is not adding up because the average lady's number is much lower. Do you think both genders may be fibbing or did they not take into all the Canadian chicks that the … Read More
How to avoid distrust in relationships and repair damage caused by dishonesty.
A recent writer to an advice column on TODAYShow.com admitted she never loved her husband, purposely broke up his previous relationship and only married him for financial gain.
The woman, who described herself as a "good, moral Christian lady," said her husband recently found out her tricks and now wants to divorce her. Geez, no surprise there. Lemondrop: Men Lie Twice As Often As Women
Obviously, this is an extreme case of dishonest behavior in a partnership. But we spoke with psychologists who say even the faintest of fibs can lead a relationship down a bad path. Lemondrop: How To … Read More
Nightline attempts to show the many faces of infidelity, but really only reveals two.
Pastor Ed Young belives that if you want to have an affair, you certainly should... with your own spouse.
"Primarily, [sex is] for pleasure. Secondarily, it's for procreation. And when you have a man and a woman making love, then you're going to hit on all cylinders. And when you don't, when you step out of that relationship, the result is going to be chaos." Spiritual Sex: 10 Erotic Commandments
Jenny Block, who's in an open relationship, has a completely different perspective on the whole matter. Read more from Jenny Block here.
"[My husband] wasn't so upset with my … Read More
How to spot a liar: four sure-fire signals that you haven't been using.
Most of us think we know the telltale signs of a liar—shifty eyes, sweating, a long, winding story that seems highly improbable. The stereotypes are even cross-cultural: a 2006 study done at the Texas Christian University found that similar perceptions of liars exist in over sixty countries.
In reality, however, there is not one behavior all liars exhibit and some behaviors we associate with lying could mean something else entirely. Because of this, few people are very good at spotting liars. Even the so-called "experts"—body language professionals, customs officials, etc.—are only right about half the time.
Deciphering a liar from a … Read More
One way technology is making infidelity more seamless than ever before.
Remember that question floated around in some truth-or-dare games that went something like, "If you were sure you could get away with it, and would never get caught, would you cheat?" Well, we may soon be finding out just how many people will cheat when the process is made seamless.
Now, there's an app that allows you to find an adulterous partner with a few taps of the keyboard—or handheld device. A website named AshleyMadison.com is a dating site specifically for committed individuals who want to cheat, and now it can be accessed by Blackberry and iPhone, reports Jeremy Caplan in … Read More
Some things in a relationship are better out in the open, but many should be kept hidden.
How much do you really need to know?
I still remember the day I walked into my house only to be confronted by my entire family staring at me like I was an alien as my mother shrieked through her tears, "Thank god you're home—I thought you were dead!!!"
Um, what?
Upon closer inspection, I noticed she was holding a familiar looking book. My journal. I was 17 and, like many teenagers, having a tough time of it. I didn't have anyone I particularly trusted to talk to about my life, so my journal was my confidant. I didn't need to filter my … Read More
Big deal or no sweat?
You told your boyfriend about the lunch you had with your colleague, but forgot to mention it was with a hottie man who works on another floor. He told you his age, kind of, but rounded off to the nearest zero. They're tiny little stretches of the truth, meant to do no harm. Instead white lies are spouted to spare your partner's feelings and be polite. But are these fibs doing harm to your relationship?
According to Vicki Santillano, writing for DivineCaroline, most people tell a white lie at some point every day. … Read More
Kissing up to the family, fake boobs and lying about your number.
Love Bytes: three must click sex, dating and relationship links.
7 tips for meeting his parents. [College Candy]
I know you want to suck up to his parents, but don’t forget the rest of the family. Be polite when introducing yourself and be prepared for anything from handshakes to hugs and kisses.
Are guys really into breast implants? [Em and Lo]
But admittedly, much like artificially flavored food, no matter how close to the original they get, the real thing always tastes better.
Should you like about your sexual past? [Yahoo Shine]