How not to fall into feeling unlovable or lonely this year, just because you don't have a Valentine!
Once again, February 14th is right around the corner. And this year, for whatever reason, you don't have a Valentine to call your own. You may be single or separated, divorced or widowed. Unfortunately, so many of us who find ourselves in this situation fall into feelings of deep inadequacy and despair. We tell ourselves: "I'm not good enough; something's wrong with me; I'll never find someone." The reasons why we're "alone" don't matter. What matters is learning how to address these feelings so that you embrace Valentine's Day 2012, feeling the fullness of love rather than the black hole of emptiness and lack.
Why do we take him back more times than is good for our self-worth? How can we finally tell him no?
An accomplished, smart and beautiful woman sits across from me in my office. She tells me about her relationship; the one she appears to be in but her boyfriend doesn't. She has tried to leave him, she assures me (and herself), but every time she manages to walk out that door, he gets to her. She turns around and walks right back in again. Once she's back, he acts like a jerk. Again. Leave. Get sucked back in. Repeat. Who can't relate to this scenario?
Are you having problems loving your body? This article is for you!
I received this email from a woman:
"My issue is I hate the way my body looks. I have cellulite (dimply ugly looking skin), and I feel ugly when I look at it. I have tried to get a simple mindset that I can practice everyday but I end up isolating myself from social events where I have to wear summer clothing. Summer is again upon us (perhaps she lives in Australia, as winter is upon us in the US) and I am terrified to expose any part of myself. I am sick and tired of having this issue effect my life."
Do you believe that getting love is what will fill you and make you feel worthy?
Take a moment right now to think about your real intention when it comes to love:
Is it most important to you to get someone to love you - to get love?
Is it more important to you to be a loving person - to give love to yourself and others?
At any moment, you can have only one of these two intentions; the one you choose determines your experience of love.
Getting Love
Take time to celebrate and care for the greatest gift of all this season- YOU!
With the millions of dollars, we’ll spend on presents for others this year, how many will stop to unwrap one of the greatest gifts you have to share with the world- yourself. Yes, you! She’ll outgrow the sweater from Macy’s and the iPod will eventually get played out, but you’re the gift that keeps giving!
Do minor conflicts erupt into major fights? Discover how to diffuse anger in relationship conflicts.
Have you ever had an argument with someone - a partner, spouse, close friend, child, parent or other relative, or a business associate - that started small and spiraled into an intense conflict? Have you ever scratched your head, wondering how it got so out of control?
Let's take a look at what feeds the flames of anger and what diffuses it.
Feeding the Flames of Anger
Whether you're on the giving or the receiving end, shutting down is bad for your relationships.
You are giving people the silent treatment when you shut down to them, closing your heart and refusing to interact with them or acknowledge their presence. You act as if they are invisible, not responding to them at all or giving them a very minimal and withheld response. Your hope in treating them this way is that they will get the message that they have displeased you. They have done something wrong in your eyes and deserve to be punished, deserve to have your "love" taken away.
Women more & more are asking why can't they find a suitable man to marry? Look w/in rather than out
More and more I am surrounded by women over 35 years of age who want to get married, but cannot find a suitable partner. They have heard the best places to go for singles over 35, have been set up on numerous blind dates, have joined online dating, and still don’t have a ring on their finger. These women are educated, have a great job, great homes, gorgeous, and would make the perfect wife. What’s wrong? When I talk with these women, many think the problem may rest with the guys.
Loving yourself is a prerequisite for co-creating a loving relationship.
Loving yourself is a prerequisite for co-creating a loving relationship.
Pinkee here~ For those of you out there who are single, or who may be in relationship, today I am going to address the issue of loving yourself. As we have said many times on the show, it is a prerequisite for co-creating a loving relationship. In particular, I want to talk about how you can love your physical body.
3 Essential Steps to Creating a Full Heart ready for an engaged relationship
In my on going quest for personal growth and my commitment to expanding my consciousness I have been constantly pulled and pushed to challenge myself in looking at how I can shift my perspective.
I was having tea with my friend and amazing relationship coach, Orna Walters, not too long ago. We were talking about our journeys and how we got to where we are today. It was like I had run into an old friend, and we were both giddy as we talked about our lives and realized we had so much in common.
Why are smart women unlucky in love and what killed an online romance? Our community weighs in.
Some people say that smart people are less likely to be happy, because they know better. This week on YourTango Experts, Christine Arylo shared her experiences as a smart woman who approached relationships in a dumb way.
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