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"We can't seem to connect anymore." This is one of the most common complaints I hear in my counseling practice. We all know that it is generally easy to connect at the beginning of a relationship - before all the protections and defenses come up. But what do you do to reconnect once you feel disconnected from each other?
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Neil Sedaka had it right. Breaking up IS hard to do. But WHY is it so hard? Because we are sentimental beings, desiring of connection. Because we’ve been told that ‘partnering’ is the path to happiness. Because it just feels good to have your best pal around and because there is no rule book or magic pill for getting rid of the longing. When going through a break up, we are in fact, experiencing a death. While it may just be emotional, it carries all of the hallmarks of a physical passing.
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Dance on the Beach of Life! Sometimes in our lives we reach rock bottom. We experience what we call hell. For each of us it's dressed up differently, but for all of us it is dark, tough and devastating. This hell can be our awakening. Some people call it a break-down; I believe it is a break-through. This was the sequence of my hell over three months. * My second marriage failed * My business failed * My youngest daughter left me to live with her Dad * My health failed
This is a community blog post and has not been edited by YourTango's editorial staff, nor does not represent the views of YourTango or its employees. By Winston Wu, Founder of HappierAbroad.com In modern America, there is a silent nationwide epidemic that the US media is afraid to talk about because it is such a taboo issue. It is an epidemic of loneliness and datelessness among millions of American males in the USA who cannot find a marriage partner, a date, or even a quality female companion.
The quest to find love is as old as the fairy tales we've read about; knights in shining armor coming to save damsels in distress and a kiss turning a frog into a prince. But alas, if finding love were as easy as reading fairy tales, we'd all be in better shape. The truth is, it's rough out here for various reasons I'll write about at a later date. Why make a challenging situation even harder by erecting the added barriers of race and ethnicity?
Dear Dr. Romance: I'm at a loss as to what to do. I'm married to a man that I sleep in the same bed (our daughterco-sleeps with us) with but other than that not much else. We are in our thirties, and we've been married about two years but have been living togetherfor longer. In the beginning it was great, even after we got married we spent most of our time together. I got pregnant and we lost our first little girl when I was 8 months pregnant, and a couple months later I got pregnant with our little girl who's now two.
The holiday season can be a tricky time to be single, even if you've been that way for a while, even if you're totally comfortable with it the other 11 months of the year. Some weird single holiday haze descends and makes the most well-adjusted among us feel like lousy lumps of unwanted coal.
The holidays only amplify the loneliness surrounding single life. If you were feeling empowered and independent before December rolled in, a few too many smiling pairs might be causing your exterior to crack a bit. It's amazing to have someone, but if you don't, we're also advocating that you embrace your single status this holiday season. It's time to focus on other aspects of your life and stop stressing over when you'll find that perfect person.
Whether you are a solopreneur or work in a large corporation and have a cubical or office, there are times when you feel lonely at work. We have all faced days that seem like everybody is busy with their work and own lives, and you're just not getting enough social interaction. Social media has opened up a new stream to stay connected but it can go only so far. It's still mostly written interaction and even watching a video is fun, but it's still just you alone doing the watching.
Have you ever wondered why we're always told that two is better than one? Why dancing is more fun when you have partner to get down with? Well, contemplate those deep thoughts no longer; the plain-tailed wren of Ecuador are about to answer your burning questions.
As John Mayer once sang, "When you're dreaming with a broken heart, then waking up is the hardest part," and millions of women sighed in agreement.
