by Mark Hunter, PCC Listening is your greatest tool in any relationship. My wife is naturally a great listener. I find her reflecting things I said to her that I don't even remember saying (often to her great benefit and amusement as you might imagine.)
As women, we all know hard it is to get our men to understand us. We talk to them and then we get the stare — you know, the one that looks like we just spoke a foreign language? Either he does that or he will respond with something completely off base or something that makes you really upset. This is when the argument begins and ruins the whole night or day. For the sake of improving your relationship and helping your man understand the women's language, check out these ways to get your man to understand.
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INTRODUCTION Do you feel misunderstood by your partner? Seem to keep getting into repetitive arguments over the same things? Have hidden resentments toward him and a mountain of unmet needs? If you're like a lot of other gay couples, chances are your listening skills might need a jump-start; and if it's not that, then fine-tuning your ability to listen can go a long way toward bridging the gap between you and your lover and bringing about more clarity and connection in your relationship.
I married a man who invented the strong-silent type. He is quiet, logical and often taken aback by my less logical more emotional responses to issues such as him eating the last cookie or telling me that maybe I might look better in another outfit. And while he gets how to do our taxes and exactly how dew point relates to airplanes leaving trails in the sky, he doesn't get that sometimes, I need to know how he feels about an issue and "nothing" is not an emotion. Curiously, it took a mutual affection for the show Dexter, which chronicles the life of a serial killer trying to function in a normal relationship, to get my husband to open up.
This video gives you tips for communicating effectively during an argument so that you end up creating greater intimacy in your relationship.
Do you sometimes have trouble getting your spouse to talk or listen to you? Try these 7 tips to open up the conversation!
Learning is a process that only the learner can begin. No one can be 'taught' if there is no room in their world for new ideas.
A tactical approach to avoiding a complete breakdown in communication.
One of the most common complaints I hear from women is that men don't listen. Be it at work where their good ideas are ignored or at home when their spouse totally forgets what she told him. Why can't men listen? They can, if you follow these five steps.
