"Hello?" I'll ask warily.

I'll hear sniffles, sobs and a lot of blubbering. This is not a good sign. Then, "It's me."

It may not be the same friend calling, but the stories never seem to vary. "We broke up. I don't know how it happened. It was just so fast. Another argument. I don't know."

They always call me, and always with a remarkably similar set of relationship woes. One friend once told me that if all else failed, I should become a relationship counselor. I was an excellent listener, she explained, and I possessed an objectivity which the vast majority of … Read More

Eight women sitting around my living room talking about sex—all of us on the downside of 50—and even my ears burned from the sizzle of passion and rawness of confession. The idea that a contemporary women's sex drive disappears in middle or advanced age is as obsolete as the notion that women go batty in menopause. But many of us are ignorant about what changes to expect in our sexual responses during this passage, and the unforeseen consequences can drive us a little crazy! ThirdAge: Sexual Changes During Menopause Take Most Women by Surprise

Craemer, a lusty-looking California woman, told … Read More

Up until recently, if anyone had bothered to ask about my sex drive (which they never did), I would have said it was normal. I enjoyed sex as much as the next woman. But like many urban professionals, I was often too busy thinking about, say, the implications of some new regulation to give much thought to the sexual impulses that spiraled through my brain each day like dust motes.

Now that I have traded in my dry-cleaned, button-down, inoffensively colored work shirts for a set of neon green pajamas, the dust is gathering attention.

If I'm any example, Read More

Us ladies tend to get our panties in a twist when we feel used for sex.

Nothing has the ability to boil our blood quicker than a roll in the hay where the only result is a notch on his belt. Yet all that energy spent hating manwhores may seem a bit hypocritical if we were to sit down and examine why we slept with him. A need to get off? One too many glasses of Pinot Grigio? A slight sense of IOU after a pricey meal? To get over somebody else? To feel preeeety? Read More

You know how men are always thinking with their wangs? And they do stupid things for love like spend money, fight really scary dudes and sometimes steal airplanes? Well, it turns out that the recklessness and derring-do may not originate from the phallus after all.

According to USA Today, women with higher levels of testosterone are less risk-averse that those with lower testosterone.  The University of Chicago and Northwestern conducted a joint study, on 500 MBA students comparing behavior between women with high testosterone and men. Students played a game giving them either a guaranteed payout or lottery … Read More

Apparently, red red wine does make one feel so fine and in more ways than a mellow '80s reggae hit would have you believe.

In a recent study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, Italian researchers claim that sex drives are higher in women who prefer red wine as opposed to those who favor other alcoholic beverages. Single In Italy: A Recipe For Seduction

University of Florence doctors surveyed 800 women, all between the ages of 18 and 50, and separated them into three groups based on their drinking habits: red wine drinkers, those who prefer … Read More

We hear about relationships torn apart by internet porn addiction, but where are the support groups for smut-loving women like me, who suddenly and inexplicably get turned off by porn when they fall in love?  Before I met my boyfriend, I was visiting youporn.com about a half an hour a day, hunting through dozens of clips to find the one most perfectly calibrated to turn me on. 

After I met my boyfriend, my visits to the site dropped off in equal proportion to how much I was getting off with a flesh-and-blood human being.

But my loss of appetite for porn … Read More

As her sister edged toward her 40th year, Deidre Fishel noticed a panic slowly building and taking hold of her. She feared the dip in libido that comes along with age. Fishel wanted to see if there was real reason to fear, or if there were older women out there bucking the myth, that they were sexless, cranky old things.

She and Diana Holtzberg set to work creating a documentary and book called, "Still Doing It," that tells stories of older women who are enjoying fulfilling and adventurous love lives.

The two women looked for women in their 60s, 70s and … Read More

Herbivore: an organism which gets its food energy from plant tissue.

Good start. According to CNN, a Japanese columnist is very concerned that a subset (possibly a generation) of young Japanese men is going soft. Maki Fukasawa applied the term "herbivore" to men who are not interested in typical manly pursuits (money, sex, kendo, rock gardening et cetera).
In the past one hundred years, the Land of the Rising Sun has gone through a myriad of identity shifts. They've gone from agrarian to industrial, from aggressively expansive to sternly pacifist, from fiercely isolated to a great cog in … Read More

It looks like today is shaping up to be a gorgeous day. It's Military Spouse Appreciation Day, so thank a military spouse if you bump into one. You probably also know that Mother's Day less than 48 hours away, so do something considerate (it doesn't have to be sincere). At any rate, the best of love on the web this week:

In honor of the forthcoming Mother's Day, Em & Lo turn motherly wisdom into sex advice. The may have missed "it's all fun and games until someone loses an eye," but who's counting? 

Over at Wowowow, Murphy … Read More