If your marriage is losing its steam and you're having less sex than you used to, talk about it.
One of the least talked about problems a marriage may face is also one of the most urgent ones. According to a poll done a few years ago, over 10% of married couples are living in a sexless marriage. How many of them actively talk about and take action to correct it is unclear.
I'm here to tell you that if the frequency of sex in your marriage has dwindled you should take action sooner rather than later. This is an issue that you need to solve proactively and not just wait for it to solve itself.
Don't men think about sex 24/7? Apparently not. Boredom and depression are big factors.
Ever since we began researching and writing He's Just Not Up for it Anymore, people have been asking us: "How come?" Why do men choose to stop being sexual with their partners? We discovered that this is a complex question with a wide variety of answers, because there is rarely only one reason. For example, a man suffering from erectile dysfunction may be too embarrassed to admit it to his spouse or even his physician, and find it far gentler on his ego to believe that his wife doesn't enjoy sex very much anyway or that he's just plain bored with her. This may anger his wife, who feels undesirable and unloved. He responds by being angry at her, and they enter a kind of feedback loop of marital discord that is difficult to get out of.
What a bad boring rap monogamy has in our sex-saturated society. We live in a society that values multiple sex partners and ignores the richness of monogamous marital sex. This isn't to say married sex is perfect. I used to hate married sex. When I was married for the first time long ago, sex was a bit of an issue. And before that I dide the casual sex thing, only to discover what many others discover (but rarely admit) – sex outside the covenant of marriage leaves in its path a battlefield of emotional, physical and spiritual wreckage.
If your lack of sexual desire is more than just a dry spell, you might want to consider sex therapy.
Despite the fact that there is a greater openness about sex today, and sexuality itself seems to be a popular topic on television, too many women and men have very little knowledge about their own bodies and how to use them for sexual pleasure. For this reason, you and your partner might want to seek the help of a sex therapist.
It seems one out of four Americans are too tired to have sex and would rather sleep.
Sigh. It's been another long day and your feet hurt. By the time the TV is off, the dishes are washed, and you've donned a pair of baggy sweatpants, the only thing on your mind is making love.
To your pillow, that is.
Well, we know the feeling, and according to a recent study by the National Sleep Foundation one in four Americans who are married or living with someone do too. Yes, that's right; nearly 25 percent of the population is so sleep-deprived that they frequently find themselves skimping on sex in favor of slumber.
What a shame.
The Sleep In America poll focused on the differences in sleep habbits between ethnic groups. It sampled 1,007 adults aged 25-60, and respondents across the board confessed to frequently feeling too tired for sex. (21 - 26 percent of the time). Not Tonight: What's Behing Your Lackluster Libido
What this really means is that we are a country of over-worked, over-tired, insomniacs who might as well sleep in twin beds.
But that doesn't have to be the case! Your bed need not be forming icicles. With a few tweaks to your schedule, as well as your mind-set, you can have that queen bed rockin' once more!
The Daily Mail suggests that men prefer Internet pornography to sex.
Yesterday, the Daily Mail reported that sex for women over the age of 35 is rapidly declining — or, at least, people are more willing to admit to declining sex in their relationships than they used to be. Today, the same paper is suggesting this trend could be blamed on men's increased preference for Internet pornography over sex.
The former editor of The Erotic Review has surprising advice for the sex-starved.
Rowan Pelling, former editor of The Erotic Review, answered this question in her latest sex advice column for the Daily Mail. A happily married woman with two small children wrote to Pelling complaining she only wants sex once or twice a month. Meanwhile, her husband wishes she’d be “normal” and put out a few times a week. She goes on to lament those “normal” bedroom marathon folks, and how she secretly thinks them all liars or exaggerators. Including a tarty French chick she worked with who ran into the office late out of breath, with sex hair blabbing about her animalistic boyfriend all the time. “Libido is a capricious thing,” she sighs.
Sleeping together, sleeping over and sleeping alone.
Love Bytes: three must-click sex, dating and relationship links.
Do your heads have to hit the pillow in unison? [Dear Sugar]
Is it okay for single parents to have sleepovers? [Yahoo Shine]
Could it be that - given the situation is safe and the kids never know - that having a partner over for some private time behind closed bedroom doors could be an expression of self-care and maybe even happy and healthy?
Too tired for love? [Sirens Magazine]
To get to that point, single women need to get out of the office—or get off the couch—and devote time to finding a mate, dating experts say. No one’s going to come knocking at your door.
According to a survey, Japanese couples are not doing it very often.
The population in Japan is aging rapidly. Technically, they age at the same rate as everyone else, but they're having fewer children so the average age is increasing. One big reason is lack of sex. According to a recent survey 25% of married Japanese couples haven't had sex in the last year.
