I've never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. The idea that some women can't ask for what they want, or don't know what they want in the first place, is foreign to me. However, I'm well-aware that I may not be in the majority here. Guys have told me other women become self-conscious when asking for something risqué or kinky — and that's a crying shame.
I've never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. I guess because during my teenage years I figured out I was/am a perv and I just owned it. But in my decade-plus of hooking up with dudes, I've come to see being clear about what I want is a bit rare: Guys have told me other women become self-conscious when asking for something risqué or kinky.
Happy International Fetish Day! Are you planning on kinking it up in celebration? I certainly hope so. Just in case you needed some ideas, let us review these 30 essential paraphilias. Just think about how much more fun sex ed would have been if we had lessons like this.
If you don't like doing it, it leaves you in the position of finding the 2% of men who do not care anything about it. This is not a favorable position to be in. The odds are exceedingly against you. But keep in mind that it's always better to know what to do and not need it, than need it and not know what to do. Who knows? One day it may grow on you. (Pun intended.) Now, if you're ready to get your hands dirty, continue to read on.
Sometimes you gotta switch up your sex life: do it outdoors, in a car, in your bathtub.
When it comes to getting frisky between the sheets, do you spice up the action by letting some naughty words slip out? If not, you may want to join the legions of Americans who are using dirty talk to mix things up in the bedroom.
America The Kinky? Thanks to Craigslist ads and online dating profiles, AlterNet has singled out where in the U.S. people like to spice things up.
You'd think that Comic-Con would be my Graceland, but alas I've never been. A handful of reasons include hating lines, cheapness and a mild shame at liking my stories full of lasers, muscles, spandex and swords (not necessarily in that order). But the reason many people go to Comic Con is, at its core, the main reason I do not: I am terrified of kinky group sex. And Ranker.com proves that a portion of the conventioneers are there for the sexy stuff.
Are you having enough sex? Well, the average American does it 120 times a year (or about 2.3 times a week). But apparently, those numbers aren't enough; we're craving more—63 percent wish they were getting it on more frequently.
Going through a dry spell? According to a recent sex study, people seeking better sex lives might consider becoming someone's booty call. That's right — science is endorsing casual sex, but moreso if you're a little bored, and if you're enjoying it in a friends-with-benefits arrangement rather than in the context of a one-night stand.
We asked five men why they love it when you talk dirty. Here's what they said.
