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Divorce Hurts Childrens' Math Scores And Friendships

A new study finds divorce impacts kids' math scores and interpersonal skills.

Every year, millions of children grieve over their parents' divorce, but new research says that the experience can compromise their math scores and friendships as well.

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Having Kids Chemically Bonds Couples

Children increase oxytocin, the bonding hormone, in men and women.

A recent study out of Israel suggests a man's oxytocin levels may actually be on par with their wives/girlfriends during the child rearing process. Researchers drew blood from 80 couples who were raising a six-week old baby and found identical amounts in their blood stream. As the child matured to six months, the scientists once again analyzed the levels and found the same result. It seems that a mother and father's oxytocin levels rise together while they watch their wee one grow.

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Hitting The Snooze Button On Your Biological Clock

This woman is in no rush for babies, and is okay with the tick of her biological clock.

I’m smack in the middle of my 30s and recently married. For some childless women my age, this is tick-tick-tick time. However, while other women may be intimately in touch with their ovulation cycles, I’m in no hurry to have kids now, if ever. My old man and I have talked about it, but we’re both horrified by how much our lives would have to change—not to mention how big a pain in the ass kids are for, oh, say, 18 years.

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How I Know We're Ready For Kids

We went hang gliding together; I think we're ready for kids.

We went hang gliding together; surely we're ready for kids. When I was young and channel-surfing, I happened to catch the tail end of "The Boy Who Could Fly." Your typical dreams-do-come-true '80s movie, it revolves around the life of an autistic boy who has a fascination with flight. In short: he believes he can fly. Of course, after seeing this movie, I wished more that anything else that I could fly, too. Well, consider my bucket list complete.

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Does Parenthood Mean You're Grounded?

Dating does more for a marital relationship--and the kids--than you can imagine.

My niece and her husband just had their first baby, so I sent them a restaurant gift card, with a note: "Use this. Soon. Just you two." I know what I'm talking about.

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How To Get Pregnant When Your Sex Life Is Sub-Par

It's tough to get pregnant when you struggle with a challenging sex life.

We've all heard how sex lives can suffer once you have kids. First, because of the damage that occurs to a woman's nether regions during childbirth. Then, because of the tenderness of a woman's vaginal lining—in addition to hormonal fluctuations—in the months after childbirth. And then? Well, there's the lack of time, and the exhaustion that comes from being a parent (and a spouse, and a fully functioning individual). There's the magnification of the madonna/whore complex that can occur after you pop one out. There's the reshuffling of your affections, and the sometimes attendant resentments that can result from this. This doesn't worry me. After all, our sex life already sucks.

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Six-Month Sex Challenge: Could You Do It?

Dr. Trina Read vows to have sex with her husband once a week for six months.

Often, when you're in a long-term relationship, sex is put on the back burner. If it weren't for heightened airport security and the requisite frisking, busy couples might get no action whatsoever. This is what happened to Dr. Trina Read, sexpert, best-selling author, and sex coach. After the birth of her second child, Dr.Trina decided to get her sex life back on track, vowing to have sex with her husband once a week for six months—and blog about it, naturally. Throw in the holidays, flu season and two kids under the age of 3 and you got yourself a Six-Month Sex Challenge.

Oral Sex Definition Gets Dictionary Banned

Oral Sex Definition Gets Dictionary Banned

The oral sex entry in a Merriam Webster dictionary causes outrage in a California school system.

The parent of a fifth-grader was disturbed when his son looked up "oral sex" in Merriam Webster's 10th edition and found a definition with the word "genitals." "Oral stimulation of the genitals" in fact, was the exact definition. The nerve! Our question: why is this inappropriate? It is called "oral sex" afterall. Is the fact that gentials are involved supposed to be a shocker?

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4 New Ways To Approach Divorce

From drive-thru windows to trial-free good karma separations, a look at current divorce options.

Tis the season for divorce. For many Americans a new start in the new year means ending an old relationship, this makes January a very busy month for divorce courts and lawyers. From practical tips for low-income petitioners to wacky/tacky marriage disolvers here is a look at some of the options out there to get on the path to a new start.

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Maternal Me Vs. Sexual Sue: Dating As A Single Mom

What happens when you resist conventional single-mom dating advice?

In the second half of my fourth decade, I became a single mom. For a year it was more than enough and I threw myself into a world of sippy cups and story-times. But one spring day, as the cherry trees blossomed, a longing bloomed in me—I wanted something else, someone else. So I dusted off the Goldfish crumbs and decided to date. But how long could I—a seven-day-a-week, twenty-four-hour-a-day mother—keep the man I was dating out of my "real" life, the one that involved being responsible for a three-foot-high person?

men have biological clocks too

Why Your 20-Something Boyfriend Wants A Baby

Five reasons men in their 20's may want children as much as women.

Twentysomething guys are often thought of to be party- and booty-obsessed overgrown babies, but a new study reveals that most of them actually covet fatherhood! Biological clocks, stability and good, old-fashioned love are some of the reasons motivating men to have kids.