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The sex is bad, attempts to fix it aren't working, what should you do?
RH Reality Check (the website for "information and analysis for reproductive health") recently received the following letter from a reader named Jessica:
My boyfriend does not satisfy me sexually. He only lasts about ten minutes, he won't rub my clit because he doesn't want bodily fluids on his hand and he won't eat me out because he thinks it's nasty, but he thinks that I should give him head. We have been together two years and now it is really affecting me. What can I do?
The RH Reality Check advisor, Heather Corinna, tries her best to support Jessica by saying … Read More
How to distinguish between having sex and messing around. Definitions vary.
What constitutes sex and what doesn't? Fifteen years after Lewinskygate you'd think we'd all have it figured out, but it seems we don't. Teenagers who haven't had intercourse are having oral sex and calling themselves virgins. Heterosexual couples who are in the early throes of a relationship say they still haven't gone all the way even if they've heavily petted. And average Americans are still writing letters like this one to Savage Love:
My wife and I were recently regaling each other with anecdotes from our past, and she easily had the most interesting story: It seems that when … Read More
Good sex is dependent on size and positive thinking—rather than foreplay, a new study reveals.
On science's neverending quest to find the cause for the female orgasm, it's only natural "research" would blatantly contradict itself a few hundred times or so. So we weren't shocked to read a study touting the benefits of length, crowing that size does matter! So much for gifted tongue flicks—ladies get out your rulers! Penis Extension Fails Catastrophically
A study led by Stuart Brody from University of the West of Scotland asked 1,000 Czech women what causes their "vaginal" orgasms. A vaginal orgasm, if you're curious, is a climax "produced simply from movements … Read More
Em and Lo's Wise Guys tackle which they would rather choose: intercourse or a blow job.
Everytime we read Em and Lo's Wise Guys, where the sex columnists ask an open-ended question and grill three men for an answer, we learn a little something new about our phallic friends. Sometimes our reaction is just a cute, "oh, men! They'll never change!" and other times we vomit in our mouths a bit.
Of course, it isn't as if we need a column to recoil in disgust/shock/amusement—a drunken bar conversations about any of these topics would be just as telling—but there's something extra poignant about seeing it in print.
Let's take last week's million dollar question: "If guys … Read More
They just don't want us to finish, do they?
A recent study published in the January issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine claims foreplay doesn't contribute as much to a woman's orgasm as actual penetration.
Sigh.
Fair enough, but the results were delightfully skewered just enough so that inexperienced men giving this study the once over may think: "Oh! So all that oral really doesn't matter? Sweet!"
Ugh. We'll just say it again. Ugh. And, no. Not exactly.
The study followed 2, 360 Czech women and asked how consistently they orgasmed and the circumstances leading up to it. How long was the foreplay? How long was the intercourse? … Read More
Think you know everything about the birds and bees? Think again!
Here's everything you ever wanted to know—but thought you were too old to ask.
According to Laura Berman, PhD, author of The Passion Prescription, even sexually savvy adults have questions about penis size (it might matter), sex after marriage (does it stop?), and a man's sexual prime (hint: younger is not always better).
"Sexually speaking, people are on a constant quest to know if they are normal," says Berman. So get out your notebook—anda ruler!—and see how your knowledge stacks up.
Does Size Matter? There's no definitive, er, yardstick that can be used to measure sexual performance—but size does come … Read More
Most women can orgasm from masturbation, but not everyone comes during sex. YourTango investigates.
Sophie*, 27, and Janine, 30, were headed down to the corner deli for their usual breakfast: bagels with cream cheese, tomato, and onion. Coworkers and close friends outside the office, for the past three years they had chewed over just about everything together-dating disasters, same-sex experimentation, their divergent definitions of feminism. Still, Janine paused mid-bite when Sophie said, out of the blue: "I'm polling my girlfriends, so I wanted to ask: Do you need to use your hands to orgasm when you have sex?"
In this age of frank talk about getting it on-courtesy of six seasons of Sex … Read More