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Am I a Bitch?

Am I a Bitch?

Being a bitch means I won't compromise what's in my heart. It means I live my life MY way.

The true definition of a bitch is when I stand up for myself and my beliefs, they call me a bitch. When I stand up for those I love, they call me a bitch. When I speak my mind, think my own thoughts or do things my own way, they call me a bitch.  Being a bitch means I won't compromise what's in my heart. It means I live my life MY way. It means I won't allow anyone to step on me. When I refuse to tolerate injustice and speak up against it, I am defined as a bitch.

Independence

Confessions From A Codependent Marriage

It took two relationships and all of my 20s but I've learned to stand on my own two feet.

My first marriage was a nine-year exercise in co-dependence. Believe me, I don't say that lightly. We dove head first into a relationship built on controlling one another and indulging a neediness that knew no bounds. We should have known from day one that we were setting ourselves up for massive failure.

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Always A Bridesmaid, Never A Bride: Hidden Perks Of Pink Taffeta

Three reasons being the last of your friends to march down the aisle might not be such a bad thing.

Couples in the U.S. throw something like 2.5 million weddings each year, fueling a $40 billion industry. 40 billion! That's a lot of aunts, uncles and cousins doing the hokey pokey… and heck of a lot of taffeta. If the average wedding has four bridesmaids, that's 10 million of us a year doing the "left, together… right, together" down the aisle as one of our friends ties the knot with her one & only.

How To Eat Healthier Without Even Noticing.

How To Eat Healthier Without Even Noticing.

Try these simple, easy tips to 'healthify' your meals without even noticing that you're doing it!

Today I thought I’d share some of my favorite ways to eat a little healthier, without even noticing that I’m doing it. Now, I should probably confess that I genuinely ENJOY eating healthy. I am one of those people who actually gets excited when I see  things like brown rice, tempeh, and kale on the menu. With that said, I do not eat every single meal in a vegan, macrobiotic restaurant (though I would sorta, kinda love that).

Emotional Dependency: Feeling Good When Feeling Bad

Emotional Dependency: Feeling Good When Feeling Bad

Making choices based on your of self-acceptance, self-honor, emotional clarity and inner truth

Making choices based on your of self-acceptance, self-honor, emotional clarity and inner truth When you are living the dreams, ambitions, and life models that belong to your parents, teachers, or partners, you live according to what you think is expected of you. It creates stress and imbalances in your body, mind, and spirit, affecting all general aspects of your life.

smiling woman holding frog princess prince metaphor

4 Steps To Your Own "Happily Ever After"

Author Michelle Cove helps single women get real about happily ever after.

Ask most girls under age 10 what "happily ever after" looks like and they'll talk to you about meeting a man (probably a prince) and kissing him at the royal wedding. Ask a grown woman what "happily ever after" looks like and she'll probably tell you the same thing. If you respond, "No, what does it look like to you NOW, as a grown woman," she'll stare at you blankly. I know this is true because it happened to me repeatedly while I interviewed women around the country for my book and documentary, Seeking Happily Ever After. No one ever told us that we could redefine happily-ever-after for ourselves—and that doing so might make us, well, happier. So here for you is permission to do it, and four ways to go about it.

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Breaking Up Made Me More Independent

How one woman's breakup proved to be a major turning point for her self-confidence.

Two years ago this June, my whole world turned upside down. During the course of a few weeks, my boyfriend of over three years broke up with me, I had to find a new apartment (a result of the breakup), and I started my first full-time job in New York City.

woman with tattoo on her arm

Are Women With Tattoos Sexier?

Jesse James cheated on Sandra Bullock with a tattoo model. Do men love women with tattoos?

Could Sandra Bullock have salvaged her marriage if she got a tattoo? A writer reminisces upon her own experience with tattoos and why women find them liberating, while men just can't stop staring.

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Single? Here's How To Celebrate

One single woman asserts her independence by celebrating her birthday alone.

I have big plans for my birthday this month. BIG ones. Wanna hear them? OK, I’m gonna sit at home in my pajamas, eat chocolate cake and watch reruns of “The Gilmore Girls.”