Most of the time we're so consumed by how to snare, keep, or please a man that we never learn one of the most important aspects of dating—how to break up with him!
Ever heard the phrase 'write what you know?' Well, I don't know how to make relationships work. I don't know how to maintain love after all these years or how to take a bad relationship and turn it into a good one. What I do know is how to break up with a guy. I know enough about breaking up with guys to write The Book on it. … Read More

From Will Marry for Food, Sex, and Laundry. Copyright © 2009 by Simon Oaks. Reprinted by permission of Adams Media, an F+W Media, Inc. Co. All rights reserved.

You know something is wrong between you and him, so do you just pull the trigger, kill this relationship dead and move on? No, take a moment. Look at what you used to have between the two of you and what you've got now. Make a list of where you two have gone off the rails. Seeing your problems in black and white helps you put things in perspective. Read More

Love Bytes: three must-click love and relationship links.

Have you seen this video, How To Break Up With Your Girlfriend In 64 Easy Steps? Well, The Frisky has written a response, How To Break Up With Your Boyfriend in 44 easy steps—20 fewer steps, since women are more efficient. [The Frisky]

A woman describes her first time a at a male strip club. [Lemondrop]

Is it fair to your husband to stay in a marriage if you feel ambivalent about the relationship? [First Wives World]

Would he be happier in the long run if we ended … Read More

Some relationships are obvious clunkers: the drug addict, the physically violent, the partner who sneaks out of your birthday dinner a million times to text his "platonic" friend Marianne. These are the people your friends beg you to leave, but you stay because you're recreating or rectifying some twisted family dynamic you've never grown beyond. If that's the case, no self-help article is going to help you; yours is the realm of a qualified therapist. But putting aside the relationship that screams "get out while you still can"—often, the question of whether to stay or go isn't simple. "Good" … Read More

"You're doing what?"

I heard that a lot in the spring of 2007, whenever I explained to friends that I had broken up with my Nathan, boyfriend of four years, yet we were still living together in the apartment we'd shared for the last two. It was a temporary matter, I'd say, a situation that would last about a month or two, until we found our own places.

It turned out to be about six. And they were strange times. Even now, more than a year later, I'm in awe that we didn't manage to kill each other. Even stranger: … Read More