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Effective communication can lead to your best Valentine's Day yet!

6 Steps For Better Communication About Valentine's Day [EXPERT]

A guy asks Maryanne how to have a loving, sexy Valentine's Day with his wife...and she explains!

The thing is, relationships aren't tidy and our wants and needs change from moment to moment, year-in and year-out. So while you may not be willing to give or get what you want this time, keep in mind that Valentine's Day or not, true love is kind, patient and always respectful. We don't need a holiday to remember that! And responsible communication is the way we can show it 365 days a year!

Guiding Principles for Relationship

Guiding Principles for Relationship

Generosity of heart over attachment

Do you know how sometimes you hear or read something and you just get the truth of it instantly? Well, this article is about those words I’ve heard that just struck me as true for me and that I could see instantly how they fit with what my spirit wants to express and to experience. I’ve compiled a list of short statements below that help to define an ideal relationship to me. Some of them are original thoughts as I’ve contemplated this list as it was growing over time and some of them I just heard and applied right away.

My Lips Are Sealed

My Lips Are Sealed

Is it okay to keep "little" secrets in your relationship?

Oh, the secrets we keep...even from the one we love most. Especially from the one we love most. You might be under the impression that there's nothing wrong with keeping a few secrets. It may even be a conscious decision for you. After all, you don't want to reveal too much too soon about yourself while you're dating. Even in a long-term relationship, staying a bit mysterious may be one of your strategies for keeping passion alive.

 Playing It Cool Could Spell Disaster for Your New Relationship

Playing It Cool Could Spell Disaster for Your New Relationship

Playing it cool in a new relationship can drive your date away and cause the romance to fizzle out

“I'm so into him!” Jessica tells her best friend. She's talking about the wonderful guy she started dating a few weeks ago. Jessica wants to do this relationship the right way-- unlike the miserable dating experiences she's had in the past. She lists off all of her plans for making sure her new guy knows just how special he is to her like sending him flirty texts, cooking him dinner and finding a way to get into his apartment to give him an intimate surprise. Jessica's friend stops her mid-sentence.

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5 Topics Couples Don't Discuss (Though They Should)

Facing taboo subjects can strengthen and enhance your relationship. Try it for a change!

Honesty and openness are important in any relationship—to get to know one another and to build trust in the relationship. But are there times when too much honesty can hurt the relationship? 5 topics couples don't discuss, 4 reasons why they don't discuss them, and 5 reasons they should discuss them.

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What's Your "Number?" How Many Is Too Many?

Too low? Too high? What is the magic number?

What's your number? Some people like to keep it under wraps at all costs. Some are not afraid to sing it — loud and proud. When you come into a new relationship, should you reveal that magic number of how many sex partners you've had in the past to your significant other or avoid the question like the plague?

Gaining & Maintaining Control Over Your Love Life

Gaining & Maintaining Control Over Your Love Life

Tired of leaving the future of your relationships in another person's hands? Get up and get control

Have you ever been in a situation where you've met a great guy, spent a lot of time with him, and then found yourself in that awkward "where do we go from here" space after weeks, months, and possibly even years of time spent? Have you ever dreaded having that talk with him?

Are You Afraid of Commitment?

Are You Afraid of Commitment?

This article explores why we are afraid of commitment--especially when it involves relationships.

We are often scared to change. Even when we're up against the wall, and our relationships are flailing, commiting to learning something new is scary, because we don't know if it will work or make things better. Are you at the point yet, where you've decided to do things differently, because you want healthier relationships? Doing the same thing over and over again leads to two things:

Cheating ?  Really, who is to blame?

Cheating ? Really, who is to blame?

So many articles on why men/women cheat, there is really only one reason, and you know what it is.

I've read so many articles lately: Why he cheats. Why she cheats? How to heal from cheating? etc. there are so many articles on infidelity lately. The real issue is HONESTY or more accurately, dishonesty. Why is he dishonest? Why is she dishonest? and How to heal from dishonesty. Should be the real names of these articles.   Why does someone cheat? It's simple. They are uncomfortable with the ramifications of being completely honest with the person they are involved with. 

3 Musts for an "Honest On-LIne Profile"

3 Musts for an "Honest On-LIne Profile"

Have you just began on- line dating? Not sure how honest to be? This article can help.

I have clients who date online. Writing the profile is one of the most difficult parts of online dating. How honest can they be? How honest are the people they are trying to attract? One of my clients is the nicest guy; in fact, his inability to assert and defend himself enables others to take advantage of him. His profile looks something like this: “single, 40ish male seeks 40ish single female.” He goes on to say he likes to bike, ski (both on water and snow) and try new restaurants. He wrote that he was a professional, but not addicted to his work.