How can you stop obsessing after a break up and learn to start living life again?
Getting your ex back is all you can think about after hearing a few deadly words; "It's over" or "This isn't working for me." Everything that you've counted on and known until now is suddenly gone. Your life plans, your hopes, your dreams and a part of yourself feels utterly lost. You are left with a broken heart and a huge, great, gaping hole in your life. You feel like your whole life has been shattered to bits and you just don't know how you will survive. Getting through the next 60 seconds after hearing those fateful words feels like an eternity and you are sure you now know what dying really feels like.
Healing your heart means changing your outlook on things!
My eight year old son walks around with a box of rocks everywhere he goes and tells everyone that he is a geologist. When people ask if that is what he wants to be when he grows up, he always replies, "I am a geologist. I don't have to grow up to know what I am." This is the simplest example of faith. When you want something so bad and you can say you have become it or have received it, you have acquired faith. Retaining faith is when you can truly believe something in your heart, even when others doubt you or you feel your world has fallen apart. Some people may call it the secret or the power. Whatever you feel comfortable calling it, it simply is pure faith.
Recognizing the stereotypes our society places upon men can help us support men through heartbreak.
I have been the beneficiary of magnificent male mentors. From dating tips to elevator pitches, I have received outstanding advice from men. Yet, there is one piece of advisement that stands out amongst the myriad of bestowed male wisdom.
I started my professional career at Vogue magazine. And just in case you’re wondering, The Devil Wears Prada (book and movie) was an accurate depiction of what happens behind-the-scenes at the largest fashion magazine in the world. Ugliness thrives amidst all of that beauty.
Breaking up is hard enough, but when there's another woman involved, it's doubly difficult.
Breaking up is hard enough, but when there's another woman involved, it's doubly difficult. It doesn't matter if she is drop dead beautiful or looks like moldy cheese; either way feels like someone stuck a knife in your back. It's particularly hard to overcome the heartbreak when another woman comes into the picture because you feel out of control. Any chance you might have had to work things out with him seems to vanish because he now has this new woman in his life. Your shaken ego will desperately try to repair it's hurt pride by urging you to find out why this happened — as if finding an explanation could make you feel better. You'll scrutinize his feelings and begin to assume all kinds of reasons why he picked her over you. This won't fix your heartbreak. This will only end up with you blaming yourself up for lacking something that she must have.
75 percent of women say their post-breakup shopping sprees were totally worth it.
If there is ever any good reason to spend $782 on yourself all at once, a heart-shattering breakup tops the list. You were wronged! You deserve to do something nice for yourself. But really, are we so materialistic a society that doing something nice has to entail spending a ton of money?
Are you in a relationship where you believe that you are open and your partner is closed?
Rianna and Joel consulted with me because they kept getting stuck in their relationship whenever there was a conflict. It wasn't the issue itself that kept creating a problem, but how they were dealing with the issue.
Stop avoiding love and step into romance with power using this advice.
Romantic love is filled with ups and downs. Almost everyone has had an experience of heartache whether a person has been married fifty years to his high school sweetheart or has been single into her forties. If you were like me, you probably had more of your fair share of love disappointments. I learned through the years that heartache is a choice, not something that happens to us, and there is a way to live heartbreak free.
Don't you wish you could order your true love as easy as a latte? Find out how.
You walk into Starbucks® and see the menu of options. You wonder if you should you get the grande or the tall, the cappuccino or the latte. The line is moving and it is almost your turn. There is a little tension building inside of you about what to order as if the world will fall apart if you picked the wrong size. Then, you place your order and then all of a sudden the unpredictable becomes predictable, the tension releases, and with your mind empty you wait for your order.
You and your partner might be hurting each other without realizing it.
You and your partner might be hurting each other without realizing it.
The sharing of love is the most wonderful experience in life. You connect and share love when you are open hearted with your partner - kind, caring, gentle, tender, understanding, and compassionate. You connect and share love when you are open to learning - listening well and caring about your own and your partner's feelings, even if your partner is upset about how you might have hurt him or her.
As you explore this topic, conside these questions:
New research shows that physical and emotional pain like heartache is the same to the human brain.
Heartache is like being burned with a red-hot poker... Yeah. You only think we're spewing metaphorical lingo. According to the Los Angeles Times, a new study has found that our brains don't differentiate between physical pain, like that of injury or disease, and pangs of the heart, like the ones we experience after getting dumped. So, basically, we physically ache for our lost loves.
A breakup can take such a toll on your heart that it seems impossible to get out of bed, let alone out of your own way so that you can move on. But the only way to begin to take the pain away and move forward is to kickstart your heart. We have tried and tested countless techniques to uncover which ones will turn your breakup into a breakthrough. Here are five to get you started!
