The couples I see in therapy are frequently bogged down with stress, resentment, and pain. Two people often sit in my office, desperate to transform their relationship back to the care-free, loving time when there was no tension or distance between them. Nine times out of ten, couples come in asking to work on "communication." However, "communication" is not what saves a marriage. These three things are:
This year’s NCAA basketball tournament is nearing its exciting finish. If you’ve been following your favorite team to see who’s best at college basketball and hoping your bracket picks survive and win, you’ve probably been watching a lot of hoops. You’ve probably noticed something about these adrenaline-rush games...
One of the largest studies of relationships ever has finally reported its findings. Conducted over a two-year period that encompassed 5,000 people of all relationship statuses, ages and sexual orientation, the study reveals some pretty interesting keys to keeping your relationship happy. We break it down for you.
Consciousness “We are each a product of our own belief system.” ~ iPEC Foundation Principle Consciousness is the foundation of every happy, healthy and thriving relationship we are in. Being conscious is in the understanding that “WHO I think I AM” determines WHAT I do and HOW I do it. Your WHO is your level of consciousness and was learned from all the people who have influenced you since your birth and even from past generations haunting you from the past.
Have you been married for years and you'd love to bring that spark back into your marriage? What if you could make your husband happy? Would you do it? I have a very inspiring success story to share with you today. It's from Kathy, one of my wonderful coaching clients. But before we go any further, it's good to note that I actually do not offer "relationship coaching" services. True!
I’m not a big Valentine’s Day fan. Not because I don’t like a little bit of romance, flowers, or chocolates it’s just that I don’t like the Hallmark Card, bad stuffed animal version of romance that lands on one day a year. Can’t we be romantic more frequently or at least not on the same day as everyone else? Call me the romance scrooge but I really don’t like a lot of our cultures versions of love and romance. Maybe I’m a skeptic but if Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries can’t work it out then what chance do the rest of us have?
When two people are just starting a relationship, they do their best to present only their best and most attractive attributes to the other party. They want to show their most favorable attributes to each other and work hard to meet the needs of the partner. They want to appear strong, confident and willing to compromise. Next Level of Love
Happy Relationships don't just happen through luck, they are made. To have a happy relationship all you need is a clear intention to create amazing connection and intimacy with your partner, and some simple tools. Focus on your individual health and happiness. Happy relationships exist when each partner feels happy in their own right--when they know how to take care of their own emotional, physical, and mental health, and do so reliably.
Relationships and marriage take more work than we ever imagined. They challenge us to look at our own foibles, fears, and personal struggles deep within. So whether you have been married 20 years, or divorced with a strong faith in the next chapter in your life, take a look at these 5 steps that will help bring your relationship to a much more harmonious place.
This year, I'll be celebrating my tenth anniversary with my husband, and while that's certainly not a record-breaking accomplishment, there are a few things I've learned along the way regarding keeping a relationship healthy, or at least from falling apart at the seams. Here they are.
According to new research on happy couples, whether or not your enjoy a happy marriage (which consequently affects your future happiness) has a lot to do with (gasp!)…who you marry. Yes, shockingly, happy couples lead happier lives, according to a German study. So why are we bringing up this completely obvious finding? Glad you asked. You see, an essential part of a happy marriage is your husband or your so-called, better half. So if you're looking for a lifetime of happiness (or at least not a whole lot of misery followed by a big old divorce), you better pick your hubby right. And these German researchers did discover some interesting news about the type of husband that will keep you happiest for the long haul.
The more relationship studies we read, the more convinced we are that love confounds science, doctorate degree holders, and couples all alike. As you might remember, we recently discussed findings that couples don't grow more alike over time. Now, a new study says that happy couples mimic each other's speech patterns and writing styles. A quick disclaimer: as the previously referenced study suggests, science thinks that the "opposites attract" theory is bull. Instead of growing more alike over time, couples date people with similar interests from the onset. Effective couples communication usually entails that couples have similar communicative styles in the first place.So it's not as if someone who talks like Snooki will develop Oscar Wilde-ian eloquence after dating someone with that caliber of wit. Say all you want about non-verbal communication, but a blissful couplehood won't last long without regular exchange of words in some form.
Couples that have become complacent in their relationship or too caught up with other things may not realize the benefits of a healthy sex life, but sex is important for so many reasons, both physical and emotional. You may have heard that sex releases oxytocin, the "cuddle hormone," which makes you feel lovey-dovey and improves your bond with your partner. There are many other health benefits you may not be aware of. Here are 9 reasons you should be having more sex.