Is sex the last thing on your mind as you crawl into bed exhausted at the end of a long day? Would you rather curl up with a good book or television show than garner the energy for a romp in bed? Do you laugh with recognition when I tell you the name of my new book, A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex? You aren't alone.

Surveys report that between 20 and 52 percent of women say their sex drive isn't what it used to be. The most comprehensive survey conducted to date found that 33 percent of … Read More

With each man who enters my life, I think I'm making a better choice than the last. Yet even though I'm in my 40s, I keep making the same mistakes again and again. When my current relationship started (temporarily) to nosedive, I began wondering if I'd learned anything from my relationships with men. I decided to take inventory. Starting at 17 and continuing until the age of…don't mention it, here's what I've learned.

Rob, age 16 to 28 off and on. That you should not have a relationship with someone who hustles pool for a living—and not only because you will … Read More

Your partner seduces you into the bedroom. You take off your clothes, climb into bed and... start thinking about the laundry, your belly pooch or the fight you had with your boss. If this happens to you when you hit the sack, you're not alone. Many women's minds turn to everything but pleasure during sex. Why do we do this? And how can we stop it? 

Women are natural multi-taskers, which is helpful in daily life but can distract us in bed, when we should be focusing only on our pleasure and our partner. In addition to life's responsibilities, … Read More

All the usual healthy habits are good for your sex drive—even if your low libido is caused by a condition such as diabetes or hypertension. Remember, sexual health and general good health are profoundly interconnected.

1. Get plenty of exercise

If you want to be "hot-blooded," then improve your circulation. Physical fitness can increase blood flow, which in theory can make sex more pleasurable since sexual arousal for both men and women involves increased blood flow to the genital area. And that can increase desire itself—if it feels great, you tend to want to do it more.

Exercise boosts endorphins, which lift your … Read More

Among my least favorite words and phrases in the English language are: 'date night,' 'panties,' and 'making love.' And among those, the worst offender is by far 'making love.' I've never understood why people can't just say 'having sex,' the sort of innocuous, less-pervy alternative. I mean, use whatever phrase you want with the person you're doin' it with, but in mixed company, 'making love' just reeks of things that are too private to share with others. (Am I the only one who immediately thinks of 'love juice' when I hear the term or is that a common word … Read More